The science behind misophonia, and possible treatments

NOTE: Much has changes since I wrote this post. Please see my blog’s home page for updates on what I’ve learned about this condition and the experimental treatments I’m trying. 

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I was poking around on a website that helps link misophonia sufferers to doctors who study the condition, and I found a document on the site that gives a thorough explanation of misophonia and its associated conditions, including phonophobia (fear of sounds).

The explanations were so good, I thought I would share them here. For more information, visit the 4S provider network website.

According to the document, this is how you pronounce the condition:  mis-ō-fō′nē-ă (MISS OH PHONY UH)

Theory behind why it happens: “The auditory pathways may be functioning normally, but there is an abnormally strong reaction of the limbic (emotional system) and autonomic nervous system (body control system) to which the auditory system is intimately connected.”

Several definitions are listed for the disorder, including:

1. “Abnormally strong negative reactions of the autonomic and limbic systems to specific sounds resulting from enhanced functional connections between the auditory and limbic systems for these sounds.  The auditory system works in a normal manner, without abnormally high activation.  At the behavioral level, sounds specific for a given patient evoke strong negative reactions.  This situation may cause general negative attitude to sound as well.  When fear is dominant emotion (patient is afraid of sound) phonophobia occurs (phobia – fear).  Phonophobia is a specific case of misophonia.”

2. “Selective sound sensitivity should be considered a type of misophonia, where soft sounds (typically eating and breathing sounds made by emotional attachment figures) are the focus, and the quality of those sounds causes annoyance and rage in the listener.”

3. “Pre-puberty seems to be a very common age of onset for the majority of those with misophonia, with lifetime persistence for most cases, and there appears to be a genetic component.”

4. “Misophonia can be considered abnormally strong connections between the autonomic and limbic resulting from enhanced connections between the auditory and limbic systems.  These connections encompass both a high level of cortical level loop with involvement with cognition as well as subconscious connections, most probably involving the link between the medial geniculate body and the amygdale. The functions of these connections are governed by the principles of conditioned reflexes.”

The definitions are super technical, but I thought I would share them anyway in case someone wanted to understand just what was going on with the wiring in their heads. Looks like misophonia happens when the wires that affect your hearing get crossed with the wires that affect your emotions. It’s pretty fascinating, really. But I’d be much more fascinated if I didn’t have to deal with it every day of my life.

OK, so what about the current treatments?

According to the document, all of the following are being used to help treat (not cure) misophonia:

  • Tinnitus retraining therapy has been tried using bilateral sound generators and directive counseling
  • Earplugs are often prescribed to help block out intruding sounds
  • Cognitive therapy
  • Desensitization therapies including adversive exposure therapy, sensory integration auditory programs, and many others
  • Counseling therapies
  • Rotating cycles of pleasant sound therapy paired with unpleasant sounds
  • Psychoanalysis

My appointment with a misophonia specialist is happening soon, so I’ll be sure to discuss these treatment options at that time. Stay tuned…

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204 responses

  1. Wow! I am so happy to find out that this exists, and your site has been helpful navigating this issue. For the longest time I thought I was just a highly sensitive, highly irritable person. As a child I used to cry when I had to sit at the family dinner table because of the chewing. My coworker is crunching on something right now and the anxiety is intense. I want to smack her, but she is my friend! How horrible this feeling is. Thanks for the helpful info! I will be searching for specialists in the NYC area.

    1. Wonderful! I’m happy to help. Writing about misophonia and talking to other people about it has been therapeutic for me. I wish you all the best and if you have time, you’ll have to let me know if you find anyone who specializes in misophonia in your area.

      1. I have just discovered this ‘Misphonia” today. I was so relieved as I have had this since I was 8 years old. I am now 37. It is getting harder and harder each year.I thought that I was just nuts and not tolerable to people. The sound of people breathing, touching their face, birds chirping, the sound some people make when they say ‘s’ and so on. It has gotten to the point that I will not go to certain places or if I go out to eat I will look for a table that is away from others. It is ruling my life. If there is any cure I would love to know about it.

      2. Thanks for sharing your story. It was a relief to me to find out I wasn’t alone. Unfortunately, there is not a cure at the moment. There apparently are coping strategies, and I am just beginning to become familiar with those, so I’m sorry I can’t be of more help. If you check out my “About” page, you can find links to other misophonia support sites. But I’m pretty sure the consensus is that there’s no known cure, yet.

      3. My boyfriend has misophonia, and I find the longer we are together, or the more that he is around anyone, really, the more they annoy him. I am just worried if we stay together for a long time it will continue to get worse. I am trying to be sympathetic, and know it’s a real issue, but I am also upset because I do not feel like he’s trying to get help. However, I also don’t feel like there are legitimate treatments. I’d love to know if anyone has personal experience with something that worked.

        Thanks,
        Kathryn

      4. Hi Kathryn, it already shows that you are a great partner by trying to learn more about misophonia and how to help. I am in a similar situation with my partner. My partner doesn’t have misophonia and tries to be accommodating, but more and more sounds my partner makes are starting to bother me. It’s difficult to even sleep in the same room, because breathing sounds are starting to trigger my misophonia. I’ve heard some people say they’ve had success with neurofeedback, but I personally haven’t tried it yet because it is too expensive for me. I’ve tried cognitive behavioral therapy, but that didn’t work for me, and I haven’t heard of it working for other people with misophonia. There really isn’t a sure way to get help for this condition, so I wouldn’t fault your boyfriend for not trying to get help. There’s really not much out there, unless he wants to (and can afford to) explore neurofeedback. Good luck!

      5. I have been living with missophonia how years now, not being able to be closer to people that I love the most like my mom brother dad and my friends, I wish there was a cure for this horror I’ve tried everything preying headphones earplugs idoring and not pay edtention to the sound the thing that helped the most was not paying edtention to the sound, but the others just made it worse. It seems like every day it gets worse, to the point that I copy the sound, I really don’t get it, why I’m I doing this ?! I’ve had tharipe for this and so far no luck! I’m confused

    2. I’m so glad that i’m not on my own. I feel like an outcast, my situ has got so severe. The stress, the tension, the emotional stress is so acute. Thank God i’m not on my own. Having read about misophonia gives me ammo to receive the help i so desperately. God bless u fellow sufferers out there. Lyn x

  2. gillianremington | Reply

    I suffer dreadful from this. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

  3. JoAnn P. Butler | Reply

    This has been a lifelong affliction for me and only recently did I learn it had a name. Repititious sounds can trigger violent headaches and anxiety in me. Loud noises are actually painful to me. My family thought I was crazy when a loudly ticking clock or a persistant car engine sound would put me in a tizzy of pain or discomfort. It is a relief to at last know the condition actually has a name and that others have the same problems. Thanks for the information and for setting my mind at ease at long last.

    1. Hi, that sounds like Hyperacusis. Have you looked it up? It is where loud noises are painful, rather than an emotion response to a trigger like people eating. Not to say you’re wrong, but just in case you hadn’t heard of Hyperacusis before.

  4. tracey knowles | Reply

    Just watch a 20/20 ahow on this .wow this is me i had no clue this had a name.i have passed this on to my daughter who is now 22 its a very stressful problum. This such a relief in a way to no there is a name for this. I truley can not do any paperwork in the room with my husband i never did well in school to much noise around me i would just get mad and as a adult i am able to control it but it.just boils all day and i am mad all day wow im speachless

    1. I’m so happy that you now know about misophonia! Feel free to explore my blog and post if you have any questions. I am not a medical expert — just a person with misophonia who is trying to get a better understanding of my problem and explore treatment options. Best of luck to you!

    2. I must stay in control of the noises around me or I will get nasty to
      the people who create the noises.

      Sometimes prayer works or trying to keep my mind on the task at
      hand but yes, the act of chewing, nose noises, jaw popping noises,
      joints creaking and cracking, nail clipping, gum chewing, dry skin
      touches, breathing noises takes over me, who I am and out comes
      this horrible beastly monster that screams, hurts feelings, destroys
      relationships, wants to kick and punch the offender, low balls and
      sinks to super low levels to get the noise offender to stop whatever
      noise they are making…. and it takes a great deal to return to myself.
      I find myself going into destructive mode as soon as the normal,
      well behaved person who loves me comes into the room. My
      attitude will change instantly.. and God Help them if they make
      a noise.

      How would you like to build your life around a person who acts like
      this? What if you had to call this person your wife or mom? Could
      you live with your own self? I hate this monster that lives in me
      who is so annoyed with bodily noises that they would hurt and make
      someone who loves them cry…

  5. I too saw this on 20/20. I can’t remember any time in my life when I felt normal. I have ADHD which is not bad for me. I have learned to work with it not against it. I just thought my noise issues were part of ADHD . I control the noise issues by isolation, I think it’s the only way, or is it???

    1. That’s a good question. If you want to try to escape the isolation, you might want to consider what I’m trying, which is cognitive behavioral therapy. I’m in the early stages, but I heard it helps you deal with the feelings you have when experiencing misophonia triggers.

      1. Michele Anderson

        Who diagnosed you? Just wondering where to begin. Thank you.

      2. I would recommend contacting audiologist Marsha Johnson in Portland, Ore. I believe she can diagnose people, as much as one can get a diagnosis for misophonia, a condition that isn’t yet listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Hope that helps.

  6. Just watched 20/20. my grand daughter who I bring up has this. She now sleeps days and up nights to avoid sounds. I never realized why till this program. Now to tell her Psychiatrist to look this up as hes been stumped to what is wrong with her. Recently saying shes just a bad teenager but shes been like this since 10 yrs old, now 13. Shes given me hell. I cant eat around her or cough or breath or yawn. We are segregated and rarely see each other now. Im incarcerated as well as cant go out during the day being illegal under 14 years old. Its a nightmare.

    1. Thanks for sharing your story with me. As someone who grew up with misophonia, I hope that you are able to provide your granddaughter with understanding and patience when it comes to her misophonia. Please understand that she has nothing against you personally. It is difficult to live with a person with misophonia, but it is also extremely difficult to have the condition. I applaud you for learning more about misophonia and I hope that you can continue to approach the situation with empathy. Good luck to you.

  7. I am SO glad this was posted on the 4S/Misophonia Facebook page. This is great stuff you’ve got here!!! There a several of us who post all over but gather through the http://www.misophonia.info site to do research and get publicity and develop archives along the way. My own personal research is toward why this is happening in our brains. We have research beginning in the USA at UCSD and there’s a study going on in London. There are “template” letters available for helping to explain this disorder to family, schools and the medical community. Shall we join forces?

    1. Hi Adah! I would love to help out in any way that I can. Feel free to email me at mymisophonia (at) gmail (dot) com and we can discuss how we might be able to join forces. Thanks!

    2. Adah, do you need any test subjects?

    3. I am so interested to see what the research discovers. I just found this page and info on misophonia todady and duh, here I was thinking it was just me. I have had some positive results with a meditation technique, but still, as others have reported, the closer someone gets, the more they start to drive me nuts.

      I study and teach neuroscience, but it never occurred to me that this was a brain thing. Duh, again. As I read the comments from everyone suffering, I have such empathy and connection. None of us want to be jerks to the people we love, but the feelings do become overwhelming. I know this has damaged close relationships for many, myself included.

      1. Front. Hum. Neurosci., 25 June 2013 | doi: 10.3389/fnhum.2013.00296
        Misophonia: physiological investigations and case descriptions
        Miren Edelstein1*, David Brang1,2, Romke Rouw3 and Vilayanur S. Ramachandran1

        I can’t get the link right now – but please look this up – - –
        FRESH off the press!!! I got to meet him and spend a few hours talking about the miso-autism-or-synaesthesia link. There is also research starting using fMRI to see what parts of our brains light up when triggered (in London).
        We ARE getting somewhere . . .

    4. Hi! I have had this problem ever since I remember, and I am a student at UCSD! If you need me as a subject maybe I can help, although I get really anxious about having things hooked up to my scalp (I tried volunteering for something else and it didn”t work out). But still, my email is okoziel@ucsd

    5. I was wondering how I can get in contact with anyone that is helping out with this Misophonia study at UCSD?

  8. I watched 20/20 also. My reactions aren’t as severe as those shown on the show. That doesn’t mean I don’t feel like smacking most people who annoy the *@#$^( out of me. I’d be happy just to lock myself in a room and never come out!

    1. Yes Elise thats exactly what my 13 yr old has done. She sleeps day and up nights avoiding everyone and everything that makes a noise. She can sleep 16 hours most times and no one can wake her up.

    2. Well I got this about when I was 8 I started to realize that I had something wrong with me, my mom said it was OCD or, and I was being a brat, until I watched 20/20.

  9. My husband is actually the one who heard about this and told me. I have been dealing with this issue since I was 11…I am now 38. It has gotten worse as I have gotten older. My problem with people eating and the noises they make has caused many fights . My marriage has suffered, my kids have suffered and my relationships with other people have suffered. I don’t want to get mad because somebody is sniffing or clipping
    their nails; but, when that is happening I lose my mind. I don’t want to be like this and I hope somebody finds a way to help soon.

  10. Lorraine L Locke | Reply

    “I live in painful silence…..I am a prisoner to the sounds around me”

    Lorraine L L
    -Vermont

    1. Lorraine,
      I have a 19 year old son who was born premature at 26 1/2 weeks , he had a horrid first 4 months . Point is at 19 years old he has had life long communication problems , also he has perfect pitch and his auditory discrimination ability is in the top 10 % .
      We made a move last year after spending the past 8 years on a beautiful back road to Rt 14 which has never ending traffic. Needless to say his hearing horrors went thru the roof . Before this he was never really able to convey in detail his auditory difficulties , now his progressive decline is evident thru his isolating behaviors or his violent reactions to the never ending sounds, so much more to explain.
      For 18 years , Jacob is/was a kind , good person who loves life , is a Musician but his life has stopped and he is in a purgatory limbo . Do you know of support groups or professionals in Vt that can help or can we help each other in any way?
      Thanks in advance and I sincerely wish you peace and comfort. I can see first hand the horror this can do .
      Carol , Jacobs Mom

      1. Carol, I live in Vt as well. I just found all the information on this disease and have been wondering what has been going on with me for years. I wish you and your son the best of luck with this.

      2. Carol, I can also relate very strongly to your son’s traffic noise horrors. Having only recently discovered that misophonia has a real name, I realized I have many of the classic markers. I love music and have played the piano by ear for more than 50 years, my Mom had perfect pitch, I have progressively worse tinnitus, I have mild OCD, I stay up till dawn because it’s quiet (luckily, I’m retired), I’ve added double paned plexiglass interior storm windows in all my rooms, and foam-backed drapes and extra insulation to try and keep the traffic noise out, but to no avail. Although my initial misophenia began when I was 8, with snoring sounds, the traffic noise thing (engine noise, really) kicked in when I was 38 and had a bad experience with firetrucks. Has anyone tried hypnotherapy? I’ve tried Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Emotional Freedom Tapping to no avail. Help!

    2. I too have isolated myself for too many years to count. I’m 62 now and I began to praise God for all things, good and bad and there have been some really huge bad things, too! One thing I can praise God for that came from the misery of Misophonia’s isolation, is that He was the only one I could stand to be with cuz He doesn’t make any horrible noises! lol, but I’m quite serious! Now, I’m better able to focus on my Oneness with my Heavenly Father which decreases my sensitivity to sound! It’s truly a Miracle! I highly recommend it!!! Love in Jesus, Elaine Moore

      1. Hi elaine,
        I am not shure but i think i have misophonia too. I am a christian and pray everyday that jesus will heal me. I Hope he will because its hard to live like this. After 7 years of Mariage with my lovely Hausband misophonia came out. There were Really no triggers when we were together, but After an emotional Crisis it happened. I Really Hope That god will do something about it.

  11. I discovered I have this condition about a year ago when it was talked about on the Today Show as well as featured in a New York Times article. I’ve had Misophonia almost all my life; it started at the age of 5. I would scream and cry at the dinner table, and as i went into school my triggers grew. Chewing, especially gum, sniffling, spit noises, ect. Even visual triggers, such as someone chewing gum without making any noise. Just the sight of their mouth moving in a certain way would drive me up the wall. I’m now in highschool and i’ve noticed my anger and anxiety becoming harder to control every year. Misophonia ruins my life. I hardly hang out with friends or even leave my room to be with family because i’d rather be alone and in silence. School is absolute torture, i’ve tried explaining to teachers and a few students, their responses have caused me to tell no one else. They either think i just want attention and play it down, or they claim they have it too. Or sometimes they go out of their way to act different around me, which i do appreciate that they are trying to help but that only makes me feel worse. Misophonia is so misunderstood, and while i appreciate the attention it has gotten i also cannot stand it. I hate how many people write online, “i think i have Misophonia” or “do i have Misophonia?” For someone who has it, there is no question. You know for sure you have it. It’s not the same as being incredibly annoyed by a pencil tapping or someone chewing loudly. It is feeling enraged, feeling scared of yourself because you think you could really hurt or even kill someone you get so angry. It is feeling suicidal because the anxiety is so high. It is absolutely life ruining, and people posting ignorant remarks like those online bothers me a lot. I understand they mean no harm, but Misophonia is not something “cool” to have. It’s not something i would ever wish on another person, and the fact that people who don’t even have it try to use it for attention is sickening. I just keep this condition to myself and try to make it through each day, wishing for a cure.

    1. JoAnn P. Butler | Reply

      Megan, I too suffer from this annoying condition and have most of my life. At times during my younger years, my parents thought I was crazy because a loudly ticking clock bothered me and kept me from sleeping. Thankfully, I am not afflicted as badly as many are and wish you well in learning to handle your condition. I am now a senior citizen and find myself spending more time alone just to avoid the sounds that bother me so badly. I wish you well in your journey through life. JoAnn

      1. Thank you, JoAnn. I really do appreciate your kindness. I am saddened to hear you dealt with this for so many years, and I am saddened to know that as a senoir citizen it is still negatively affecting you. I also wish you well, thank you again.

    2. Your experience has really opened my eyes, I do not have Misophonia, but my wife and son both have it. My wife cannot stand the sound my son’s our my eating, breathing or chewing gum and she can’t stand to watch us chew gum even if she can’t hear us. We basically all eat in separate areas or at different times. My son is the same way he can not stand our sounds, they both have very angry and mean outbursts. This condition is tearing my marriage and family apart. I never realized the agony that they are going through! In my mind I always wonder why doesn’t their own eating bother them? It’s not like they are any quieter? It makes me angry that I can’t even enjoy a meal with my family. It drives me nuts that they get angry and freak out at my breathing, I mean, I have to breath. That being said I now realize that they have no control over it. I am going to try even harder to approach their problem with love and not take it personally. I guess the thing that surprises me the most is that the closer the person is, the angrier the Misophonia gets with the sounds. Thanks for your post.

      1. Thank you so much for your comment. I became very emotional while reading what you wrote because I have a partner who also sometimes takes it personally when I am triggered by his noises. I can’t imagine what it must be like to live with someone who has misophonia; it must be difficult to have the person you care about get so angry at you for what seems like no good reason. When I am triggered by my partner, no matter how angry I get, I try to make sure to tell him that it’s not his fault. My hope is that by saying that, he might be less hurt by my anger. But it’s never been easy. I wish you the best of luck. Know that your family does not hate you. They just hate some of the sounds you make. It’s not your fault. It’s not their fault. It’s just the situation.

      2. Thank you for your reply; it gives me even more perspective on this condition. I was wondering if you have a love and a gifting for music? Both my wife and son do and this seems to be a real escape from their Misophonia. They often ask me how I ignore irritating sounds or people eating, I just tell them that I ignore it and they laugh and say “Like that’s an option?”. But it is starting to make sense that the sound is interlinked with feelings, I think that’s why music is such an escape because they get extra pleasure out of what they consider good sounds. Do you find this to be the case for you?

        I have been married for over 22 years so I have had a lot of experience living with a Misophonia. My son, who is 15 has only been showing signs of Misophonia for the past two years, he can have violent outburst when it gets too be much. Some of the ways they cope are ear plugs, iPod at loud volumes. I think the saddest thing that I have noticed is over the years that way my wife has withdrawn from the world. She has no real friends and it has really affected our relationship. She would rather stay at home and has not held a job outside the home for over 15 years. Restaurants, Movie theatres, crowded malls, parties are all things she avoids like the plague. We really do not live as a couple, I am out going and enjoy all of the above, I use to just stay home but have decided that I just need to go do it all on my own. This being said, I see her loneliness and longing to live a normal life, it kills me that I cannot help her. It also saddens me to see my son heading down the same road. I really pray that a cure or treatment becomes available, it appears that living with Misophonia robs the suffer of a full and joy filled life.

      3. LK, I urge you to try Neurofeedback at least for your child: there are more and more people using NFB and seeing great results: especially young people who have more elastic brains. There is a google group https://groups.google.com/forum/?fromgroups#!forum/misophonia-support that has many who are talking about NFB as a treatment and many of the NFB practitioners are sharing ideas with other.

      4. @LK, as a matter of fact, I do really love music. I do not play any music, but I find that listening to it is very therapeutic for me. I especially love listening to music while driving to and from work. Being alone in the car provides a nice break from sounds that trigger my misophonia.

        @Adah, very interesting. I had heard of NFB, but last I heard, there was a lot of skepticism surrounding it. Looks like more and more people are experiencing relief through it? Has it worked for you?

      5. I AM trying NFB again, as a matter of fact. My brain is a bit different from most: my father was highly misophonic and did not control his rages or his arousal and I was raised with a sadistic pedophilic rapist. I have had many years of psych treatment and have handled that issue well but years of chronic violent rape starting in early childhood does tend to change the brain wiring. The first round of NFB I had really settled the PTSD issues. Now I am being a guinea pig and we are targeting the misophonia. If anyone else has a “PTSD brain” and can try NFB it would be awesome to compare notes!!!

      6. Thanks for sharing your story, Adah. If it can work for you PTSD, it must be very powerful. I’m definitely going to look into it more. Best of luck to you!

  12. Victoria Archer | Reply

    My daughter suffers w/misophonia, she is 20 years old. It has been a long and hard journey since the symptoms manifested in her at age 10. It is painful to watch her struggle at times because I know…..I KNOW that it is real. The reactions to the triggers are visceral. Speaking to the family members of the one who suffers w/this my heart goes out to you also because I know how hard it is sometimes to endure the “walking-on-eggshells” atmosphere of living with them.
    Ten years of trying to understand this neurological problem has taught me, her mother, to have compassion & understanding for people who struggle with emotional problems that disrupt and can incapacitate their lives. Unfortunately, I believe some doctors & counselors misdiagnosed my daughter w/bipolar disorder & OCD based mostly on the rage part of the reaction to noises & the depression of the dibilatating effects of realizing your life with this disorder. She was on Abilify for 7 years (a psychotropic drug for bipolar disorder). No drug ever thrown at her helped with the effects she had such of the Fight or Flight situations from the triggers. She went to Atlanta, Emory University, saw Dr. Jasteroffe (spell?). He helped to teach her about white noise to help drown out some trigger noises. In 2010 she tried some cognitive behavior therapy sessions in St Petersburg, Fl at a Children’s Hospital (Rothman Ctr). While I believe this is probably the only real way to alleviate some trigger noises, the treatment is torturous in its way & she was not ready to endure the pain. I was glad we were able to expose & enlighten her to this therapy for her future. She knows it’s there & what it will require of her to complete successfully. She just recently married and gave birth to a son (he is 3 weeks old today). She is revisiting the idea of cognitive behavior therapy with a therapist now. I feel confident that she will be successful because she realizes the intestinal fortitude it will require to endure & apparently is ready. My heart goes out to those currently struggling with this disorder & to their family, loved ones & support care. Hang in there. Two things also I would like for those to remember.
    1. If you are struggling with this disorder it helps not only you but your loved ones whom you live with to know what your triggers are & to DEVELOP a game plan for everyone on how to react.
    2. For your loved ones you live with, my best advice is to NOT continue to create a living atmosphere of “walking-on-eggshells”. This is not healthy for the other members of household. Create an environment in which your loved one who suffers can become self-empowered & motivated to adapt their behavior to triggers in a healthy way by creating white noises or seeking another room to calm down in while processing the effects of the trigger noises.

    This disorder is NOT a death sentence, it CAN be managed. I know this for a fact as I see my daughter manage it on a daily basis. God is good.
    Victoria Archer

    1. Victoria – THANK YOU for being the parent most of us wish we had!! I urge you to reconsider trying to “cure” a neurological disorder with a psych treatment. I do NOT have answers, but I DO know what does NOT work.
      Yes – psych treatment is incredibly helpful to recognize that the feeling we have as misophonics are not real emotions, they are the result of improper firing of neurons. A game plan is a must – you are perfectly on target. We all have to be open and honest more than most. But CBT is not the answer. White noise generators can help us cope: I have in-ear Ipod buds and I prefer brown or pink noise to white noise. As miso’s, we are susceptible to developing triggers from anything we are exposed to so I suggest switching up the masking sounds. THANK YOU again.

  13. Didn’t even know this existed until a few days ago.I suffer severely do not know if i will make it thru another day .if the dog barks one more time or the people at church pop their gum one more time i think i will do something drastic,or if the spoon clinks against the bowl one more time i think maybe i will go out back and just go away forever.i don’t know how or when but i know i have to get some relief.please God help me to deal one more minute one more second please please HELP

    1. Hi Barbara, it upsets me to hear that you feel the way you do. If you are feeling suicidal, please know that there are people you can talk to. Please see the National Suicide Prevention website. They have a number you can call: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

      There is no cure for misophonia, yet. I hold out hope that there will be a cure some day and in the meantime that we can learn how to better cope with this condition. You’re in my thoughts.

    2. you say you go to church right? well in church you know your restricted from acting out, God will love you anyway if you dont go. My uncle is a Minister and I also suffer from misophonia myself. My uncle told me when I was little that God and Jesus love you no matter what and he knew of my condition. What you and everyone needs to do is find that place that gives you peace from the world while triggering if you cant, im no doctor but i feel just the way you do some times when im bugging out so i got perscribed xanax, very good for anxiety and thats alot of what you feel when this happens your beautiful and good hearted live and love

  14. Hi , i cant beleive there is a name for this! I thought i was so irrational & impatient, ive always been so confused as to why i just cant handle everyday noises that didnt seem to bother anyone else….. if i comment here will it be seen on my facebook page??

    1. Hi Melinda, great to hear from you! I don’t think it will show up on your facebook at all. It doesn’t ask you to sign in using facebook to comment, right? I think you’re ok. I didn’t set up the blog to link to people’s facebook pages. This blog doesn’t even have a facebook page, although there are a few facebook pages for misophonia. Some of those are private and some of those post on your facebook feed.

      1. Hi, Thanks for replying! I’m not very computer savy & ive never commented on a blog before so wasnt sure what it was linked to! Im still amazed that what i have ‘suffered’ with since i was about 10 years old has a name! when i was a child we were forced to sit at the dinner table each night ubtil everyone was finished, the sounds my dad made when he ate, omg, i would have to try so hard not to burst into tears i felt like screaming and running as far away as i could!! i felt like i would explode!! Every night of my life!! ahh!! The sounds of my mums jaw ‘clicking’ when she ate ahhhh!!!! My main triggers now are crunchy food & breathing!! My poor husband (the sweetest man you’ll ever meet whom i love with all my heart annoys me the most!! Why?? i have 3 children they can eat chips near me but my husband, 1 crunch and i feel like i will be sick! If i hear him breathing its like nails down a chalkboard, especially if im trying to sleep! I have used earplugs since i was 15 to sleep (im 40 years old now) as soon as i got a parttimejob, i had the means to buy them & i absolutly cannot sleep without them. i always had to share a room with my sister who i also love dearly but the sound of breathing at night just sends me crazy!! when i was sharing with my sis some nights it upset me so much id end up trying to sleep in the cold hard bath! (as my dad would have killed me if i was caught out of bed so the couch wasnt an option!) I also could never stand the sound of my mum knitting the knitting needles clicking together makes me fel so angry and nauseas. I have to leave the room if my husband is eating a bowl of cereal not just the crunching but the spoon hitting the bowl again & again sends me insane!! & he knows NEVER to open a bag of chips near me…i feeel awful but i get so angry!! It worries me sometimes & makes me so sad because the older im getting the more annoyed i get with my sweet husband who is so kind to me, yet i cant stand to hear him breathe, eat sometimes even TALK!! why is this happening! Sometimes when people breathe their nose makes a clicking sound and if anyone repetitively sniffs near me. AHHHH, i feel like a volcano about to erupt! Mostly its the people closest to me that irritate me the most, 1st being my poor husband,& my mum who is so sweet …yet my children do not trigger me off? I am estranged from my dad now but he has so many annoying sounds that i sometimes wonder if being forced to be in his terrible company when i was a child/teen made this worse for me….he ate like a pig…& we had to listen to it….he had somethig wrong with his nose and sniffed constantly God, i thought i would die! i hope now i know that this is a real condition & im not the only 1 who feels like this, helps me to move forward & find some better ways to cope? It explains the confusion ive always felt as to why noises that dont seem to effect other people drive me up the wall! maybe one day i can sit and watch a moie with my husband & he can breathe & have a snack without me exploding & feeling like i want to run run run!!
        This might be a weird question but is it possible for this to cross to visual?? i think My husband has ugly feet and i cant bear to look at them!! it sounds crazy but if he dosnt wear socks i get the same sick feeling as the crunching of chips and i feel angry at him!! i know its irrational and my poor man……but i cant help it even tho im trying to be a better person (i can remember feeling the same about my sisters feet when we were kids if she didnt have socks on & she was sitting next to me on the couch for e.g i would have to cover her feet with a blanket, i couldnt bear to look at them…. so bizzare!

      2. Yes, there are visual triggers. I am triggered by seeing a person with a crossed leg tapping their foot in the air. I think it is the repetitive motion of the foot tapping that bothers me, and I try to block my view of it if possible. Just recently, people running their fingers through their hair in a repetitive way, or seeing a person scratch themselves in the same place over and over have both started to bother me.

      3. Melinda,
        I am speechless. Your story is what I’ve been dealing with for as long as I can remember. Wow, I am not the only one. My husband thinks I’m just being mean when I freak out if he sniffs, breathes loudly, eats, chews gum, snores, etc. We haven’t slept together in the same bed because I can’t stand his breathing, or snoring. We have been in counselling for 5 months and only now, can I find a reason as to why I am so annoyed at him.

      4. I strongly concur with Lifewithmisophonia that there are, indeed, visual triggers. As a child, my older brother would twiddle incessantly with his hair. He would also suck his tongue, while everting his lips, and constantly sniff the back of his hand, often all at the same time. It drove me absolutely wild and often sparked yelling and physical fights between us. My exasperated parents would just keep telling me to ignore him, but I simply couldn’t! It was only after I moved away from home that the visual triggers could be avoided, but now the noise triggers have gotten more prevalent and much worse!

    2. Hi Melinda,
      Holy cow, I am in just about the same situation as you as far as your husband goes. I’m married to the sweetest, most wonderful man in the world who treats me like a queen, yet I can’t STAND to hear him breathe, chew, or sip soda out of a can. It drives me up the wall and I’m now in my 50s and things like this have bothered me since I was a child. My father’s breathing also irritated the living daylights out of me. When we’d go to church I’d make sure my mother would sit inbetween my father and me…AHHH. You just want to scream, eh? I love being by myself now. Weird. We live in a noisy neighborhood and I always have earplugs in or am listening to a Shuffle or Ipod. I can NOT imagine after all these years to try to sleep without earplugs OR the white noise. Thank you for sharing!!

      1. I’ve had the exact same issues with my husband, kids, my brother and mom. My brother would brush his teeth or take a shower and the water running in the walls would drive me crazy! My mom use to have the worst of my disorder.. talking on phone, singing, EATING! The way she does her S’s.. now that I’m older and Live in my own home with my kids (4 of them!) my husband gets it worst.. all my agrivations have redirected towards him.. I’m afraid I’ll be this bad when my kids are older. Things they do are starting to trigger my anxiety with the disorder.. I feel if the situation around me is stressful the more crazy I feel.. but also it can be only just me and another person and I feel just as crazy. I’m usually wearing headphones now..
        I just don’t want my kids to hate me when I’m older : / I can’t help my feelings and outburst.. it sucks!

  15. I’m 17. All my life eating & slurping.. Only happens when listening to people in family, not friends.. I wish there was a cure.. I eat separately in my room on Christmas day.. Like Melinda Page, its exactly what happens. It’s horrible, I haven’t money to see a therapist or anyone. I was on a public service and they said its a phase & wouldn’t believe. I asked them to help me find a cognitive behavior person. Only my boyfriend (17) understands. That’s pretty sad. Family always gives out, saying I’m a little bitch, “ruining their dinner” I’ve tried to explain it all, no-one listens except a fellow 17 year old. I know now it has a name, and I’m saddened there are people who suffer too. Hopefully there will be a cure, and someday I’ll have money to see someone.

    1. For me its ok around my friends.but with my family I have to leave the room. It’s so sad……………………………

  16. Omg I thought I was the only one that was like this! People think I’m so crazy cause I can’t stand to hear or see someone eat or bite there nails or breath in there sleep. It makes me super violent and i have thought in the past it could be bipolar disorder but now I see what it is I’m so relived.

    1. Me too, I thought it was bipolar, what a relef.

    2. I hear ya! what a relief to discover that you are NOT crazy! yay! much luck!

  17. I wish there’s a cure for this disorder.

    1. totally… :’(

  18. I am crying as I read all these comments!! Everything people say is true; gum chewing, chips, silverware clinking, snorting(nasal drainage), cereal, breathing, coughing, tapping, crinkling wrappers or bottles, socks rubbing together, clocks ticking, rattling, all of these put me over the edge. My husband says I’m a nag and complain about everything he does. I love him to death but he doesn’t understand the anxiety that pulses through my body with any of the above noise. I could literally punch someone in the face. I have had to walk away on many occasions for fear of my anger getting out of control and having no “real” reason for besides someone breathing or eating. I remember as little as six dreading watching movies with my grandma because she would smack her gum. I would sit and quietly cry and plug me ears through the whole thing for fear of offending her and having no way to describing my problem in a way that anyone would understand.

    I try to find ways to cope and not act like a crazy person. Hopefully someday soon there will be a cure or a way to fix this problem. It is a very alone feeling that not many people understand.

    1. There are more of us than you think! Please google Misophonia to find large support groups with people from all over the world

  19. The scepticism of Neurofeedback comes from pharmaceuticals and in the context of Misophonia from audiologists. There is a lot of amazing NFB research which shows incredible results with ADD, autism, depression, anxiety, epilepsy, the list goes on. I have been using NFB for my Misphonia for 6 months and it’s been life changing. I no longer carry earplugs, which is huge for me. Today the checker at the store was snapping her gum. Normally I would have left all my stuff on the counter and walked out. Today I thought, “Wow, she’s really snapping that gum and I don’t even care.” That is unbelievable given I’m the one who sat on the couch next to Ann Curry and told millions of viewers that when people snap their gum I want to “knock their teeth out.” Please join us at http://groups.google.com/group/misophonia-support?hl=en We talk about our NFB experiences. You cannot treat a neurological disorder with audiological devices and CBT, you can mask noises and make your responses not so severe, the latter of which I am all for, I fully believe in positive thought, but it eliminate Miso, you must tackle it at its root cause, the wiring of our brains. There are so many more Miso sufferers now trying NFB, many, many more than just 6 months ago. The NFB community is beginning to buzz about it and very excited to help us.

    1. Thanks for the link! I am definitely going to check this out.

  20. I can’t even use ear plugs because the sound of my own heartbeat pisses me off. I have had hearing problems as a child due to ear infections and salt water damage from swimming. I have also been diagnosed with ADHD and OCD. Not sure if it’s connected. Background noise makes me irate as well as chewing, sucking, snoring, loud breathing, the tick of a clock, people blowing air through their teeth, those news shows where everyone talks over each other to argue a point, mispronounced words, the list goes on….

  21. I was in tears a few days ago when I learned about misophonia! I have been living with this all for the majority of my life and I always thought it was me that was the problem. Movie theatres, dinner tables, etc have always been a place of torture for me. Even at work, I have to work with ear plugs and headphones in order to drown out my coworkers slamming her keyboard. I always apologized to people close to me for my sensitivity. My family sometimes made me feel awful because I was “too sensitive”.Thank you thank you thank you! I am not the only one.

    1. I am feeling the same way as you– THANK GOD! I am NOT crazy and I am not alone. I cried and cried as well, just knowing that there was a name, misophonia, makes me somehow feel validated after all of these years! Congrats to you and good luck to us all!

  22. Wow. I am currency 14. I’ve been highly annoyed with gum smacking and food smacking for as long as I can remember. My mom was always intolerable and so was my sister. They both still are. They both still always smack their food. My mom watched an episode of 20/20 and found a name for it. You know.. It sucks. I’ve cried a lot today. I finally decided to do more research on it seeing as I’ve become highly annoyed with a NEW sound, nose whistling or even someone breathing. And I’m around all of these triggers 24/7. I am such an inconvenience to everyone around me. And reading that my life will only get worse makes me extremely upset. I keep my headphones in all of the time. Because I get screamed at for asking my family to please stop. I get in trouble. Kids at school think it’s hilarious to smack their gum around me. I hate myself. I really hate that I have this condition. But I guess I have to get used to it. It’s apparently not going away anytime soon. I just needed to get this out there to others who actually understand me.

    1. Hi Rachel, I’m also 14. I love when I can find someone my age that has Misophonia also, I find you guys easier to talk to. Misophonia is completely ruining my life. I’m at the verge of being home schooled, I’ve broke down crying in class because of how annoyed I got of others. I really just don’t even know what to do anymore.

  23. Oh my word! all these years I just thought I was an annoyingly irritable unfair person.
    My triggers for huge inner rage seem to be heavy breathing while eating, and the sound of ladies’ heels walking on a wooden floor. It makes me want to completely hulkout and murder, but instead I sit quietly, with my head in my hands. I really hate the sound of my own footsteps in heels, and I hate the sound of my own breathing if I have earplugs in so that’s all I hear. Absolute rage. When I become old and nutty I’m probably going to hit some people… but until then, I will just have to silently deal with it. Really interesting info you’ve got, thankyou! I’m certainly going to try and get some treatment for this.

  24. Oh my word! all these years I just thought I was an annoyingly irritable unfair person.
    My triggers for huge inner rage seem to be heavy breathing while eating, and the sound of ladies’ heels walking on a wooden floor. It makes me want to completely hulkout and murder, but instead I sit quietly, with my head in my hands. I really hate the sound of my own footsteps in heels, and I hate the sound of my own breathing if I have earplugs in so that’s all I hear. Absolute rage. When I become old and nutty I’m probably going to hit some people… but until then, I will just have to silently deal with it. Really interesting info you’ve got, thankyou! I’m certainly going to try and get some treatment for this.

  25. I’m 56 years old & my 1st memory of misophonia was before puberty but it really kicked in at puberty. There was no name for it then. No one believed me or understood including my family nor hundreds of medical professionals I’ve sought over the years–both traditional and non traditional–and nothing has ever helped. I feel deeply for fellow sufferers. It isolates you and makes it difficult to keep a relationship or hold a job (I’ve been married and divorced four times and couldn’t begin to count the number of jobs I’ve had) My lifeline has been meditation but I developed a ringing in my left ear two years ago so I no longer have a quiet place inside to go. But I’ve made my life work for me and it’s a beautiful life! Do whatever you have to do to make a peaceful, joyful life for yourself…move to a quiet country neighborhood, only accept kind people in your life, spend lots of time in nature, keep a fan blowing in your home, move the refrigerator to the garage, meditate and join with your inner divinity to fill yourself with so much love tears of gratitude spill down your eyes. Remember everyone has their cross to bear. Everyone has an inside they live with and an outside they show to the world. Don’t compare your insides with their outsides. Read Desiderata–it’s a lovely comforting poem. Love, sympathy, big hug and lots of blessings to you.

  26. Holly, that is a lovely, comforting message. I am struggling at the moment, developing more and more triggers as weeks go by. I am a 40 year old woman who has had Misophonia for around 30 years. My most recent and cruel trigger is that of my 11 year old son’s guitar playing; he is teaching himself to play and when I told him it was a trigger he was heartbroken. In hindsight I shouldn’t have told him and should have proceeded to wear earplugs everytime he played, but I was in such an anxious state I put my own needs before his. This “curse” is cruel, it is irrational and turns us into people that we arent, I am sure I amnot just speaking for myself. I am deperate for help, more desperate than I have ever been in my life. Last night I thought that my kids would be better off without me.
    Thank you so much Lifewithmisophonia. You are a blessing to all of us. I am determined to spend more time looking into this and trying to raise awareness. I am also going to try to live a “normal” life and not let this ruin my children’s happiness and development!
    Love and kind thoughts to all fellow misophonics xx

    1. Thank you Julie for your note. Another thing that helped me was to accept the misophonia–for example if someone was a paraplegic and didn’t have legs, they’d go thru the stages of pity, anger etc. then finally acceptance because their legs won’t grow back. Well, at this time there is no cure for misophonia and unfortunately we don’t get sympathy from others, there’s no way they can understand the depths of rage and emotional pain we feel when a trigger occurs. So — accept that some people won’t honor your disease and let them go from your life; think about what kind of work you can do where there won’t be any triggers and get a job doing that. I was given anti-depressants for a time and I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND THAT AT ALL. My doctor gives me Xanax to take every day. It’s just an anti-anxiety medication but helps better than anything else that I’ve been given over the years. I’ve been misdiagnosed out of doctors’ ignorance and been given all kinds of medications that didn’t help and their side effects were awful. I also did years of psychotherapy which didn’t help. I tried to ‘exit’ this life 4 times; the 1st at 15 years of age. Like I wrote before, I have a lovely life now. Maybe a cure will be discovered soon but until then, it sure makes life easier to accept the misophonia and make your life work with it. I also realized that because of my isolation from people, tv, movies, concerts–you know, the things most people do, I found a deep rewarding spiritual life (not religious but spiritual) which I wouldn’t trade for the world.

  27. Hey guys iv been stuggling with this disorder its coming to the point where i cant take it anymore. I used to just get angry and violent but now its turning into sucidal thoughts. Im looking for ways to block the noises out or to find a cure if anyone has some adivice please replay back soon thank !!

    1. Hi Jeremy, I’ve written several posts here so I won’t repeat myself but it might help if you read them. An iPod helps, load it with peaceful music and whenever you’re going out where there will be trigger sounds wear it. Unfortunely there’s no cure today but we live in a marvelously advancing society and misophonia is becoming so widespread, a cure could be just around the corner. It pretty much dictates how you’ll live your life. I’m so sorry you’re having to live with this. I’ve had it all my life and I’m 56 so if you have any questions, reply here. There truly is a lot of joy and beauty that’s here and you can have a full loving life with misophonia. Holly

  28. I’m 12 years old and have had misophonia since I was about 10. I’m glad I found out about it soon, but I’d be happier if I didn’t have it at all. My stepdad is sitting on the sofa picking his teeth and making this HORRIBLE sound like somebody popping gum. I honestly would love to throw the coffee table at him. Its so frustrating and horrible and I’ve started silently crying about 3 times and every time he makes the sound I visible cringe, but my mom and stepdad are sitting there ignoring it, because they just think I’m being “fussy” and annoying. I’ve tried to explain to them several times that I have misophonia and they just tell me to shut up and quit fussing. Once when my stepdad was doing this, I politely asked him to stop. All I did was say “Um, can you please stop making that sound?” and he started shouting at me like it was so ridiculous. He stormed off into his bedroom and got my mom and made me tell her what I said, as though I’d cursed at him or something. My mom grounded me for it. She actually grounded me for politely asking him to stop making that horrible annoying sound. I just don’t get why they can’t just believe that I have misophonia and stop being ignorant and unfair.

    1. Maya, You sweet young person. I’m 56 and lived with misophonia all my life. I’ve two posts above that you might want to read. I remember being your age and not respected or honored or believed by my family. If there’s any way possible I wish you’d seek counseling at school or with a therapist, not for your misophonia per se but because you need a kind therapeutic person to talk to to help you get through all the feelings you’re having to deal with. I don’t want you to stifle them inward and sink into a depression; perhaps they’ll want to bring in your stepdad and mom at some point and educate them on what misophonia is. It’s a neurological disease that you have no control over–you’re not just being fussy. If I can help in any way, reply to this post. I’ve set it up so I receive an email to anyone who replies to any of my posts. Hang in there. You are not alone. I love life and you will too. Holly

    2. I completely feel for you Maya. My family does almost the exact same thing, it’s tough.

  29. Hi,
    I am wondering if I have misophonia. Can you help me figure it out?

    I feel that I am sensitive to tones in voices. For example, a joke that is actually funny will upset me because of the tone of the voice that it is told in. My friends will laugh at the joke, but I feel disgusted by it. I don’t necessarily want to kill the people whose voices trouble me (well, mayyybbee once), but I do know I get angry sometimes. I get angry at the people, and if I ever feel a mean thought wanting to come up, I push it away. I do not know if it is because I am somehow linking it to past voices that were similar and that maybe I didn’t like because of the person themselves. (You know? Like, attaching a personality to a voice.)

    Sometimes it’s hard for me to talk to some relatives because I just don’t want to hear the tones in their voices or the way they pronounce things. Sometimes it’s hard for me to make friends because although they are nice people, their voices make me cringe or the things they laugh at or listen to may be funny or written well, but the way it sounds will ruin it for me. There might be a happy song, but I will have a negative reaction to it while my friends enjoy it…I don’t know if that’s just taste in music, though…but it’s like the same reaction as with the funny joke told in a tone that makes me cringe.)

    Chewing bothers me, too…I noticed it really bugs me, and I do not know if it is because someone I used to dislike would chew very sloppily, and I thought it was disgusting and was bad manners. It got me angry, and I get angry thinking about it, and so I avoid eating with other people because I don’t want to chew in front of them. I don’t want to upset them…but now I’m thinking that they probably wouldn’t be bothered as much as I would. I don’t know….there’s so much to say. Is it misophonia if it may link to a past memory????

    It seems though, that people with misophonia either walk away from the things that bother them or actually snap at whatever is causing the sound…They seem to not know how to handle it at all, and so they wear ear plugs or something(which is a good idea I had not thought of, actually). I just try to ignore the sounds by focusing on something else. I’m known to handle stress, anger, anxiety rather well, but when I am really tired, I prefer to just be isolated for a while. I bottle things up, try to push them away, and then I explode…Anyways, I have also tried to trick myself into thinking that it doesn’t bug me….I try to trick myself into thinking the way I assume others around me think. Like I said, though, if my patience is low, I’m bound to cringe inside…so I don’t know if it’s true misophonia.

    Do you think this is misophonia?

    1. Hi, thanks for your comment. I’m not a doctor, but I would say there’s a good chance that you do have misophonia. I would recommend that you try to find an audiologist near you that might be able to make a misophonia diagnosis. Try seeing if any of these experts live near you: http://misophonia-provider.com/PROVIDERS_BY_REGION.html

      For a long time, I functioned around bad sounds without earplugs or outbursts. Internally, I was losing it, but I’m not sure anybody could tell based on my outer appearance. So, outbursts and running away from sounds aren’t the only signs of misophonia. The true sign, in my opinion, is the way the sound makes you feel. Do you feel panicked? Do you wish you could get away? Those are the questions I would ask.

    2. Frank, I can verify that certain people’s voices can, indeed, drive you crazy. I used to work in an office with two people who had a certain timbre to their voices that would make me just cringe. No one else in the office caused that reaction in me. I remember the trigger taking hold in association with a strong negative interaction with each of those persons, even though they were nice people. I wound spending most of the rest of my career wearing headphones in the office listening to white noise at high volume. Moving to another office years later resulted in the development of a trigger with another employee’s voice, this time because she sounded like “cell-yell” but not necessarily due to the loudness of her speech, just her voice quality.

  30. oh wow!! thank you guys! the sharing really helps. at least now i know im not a physco-path as people call so. even my parents are so not supportive. thank you so much… :’)

  31. I just found out about this about an hour ago by accident when I was reading a list on buzzfeed and it stopped me in my tracks. I’ve been dealing with this for as long as I can remember. When I was about 6, I would scream at my little sister for chewing so loud and then I’d get in trouble. More than 20 years later, she still teases me because I would bang my fist on the table and kind of growl through my teeth at her. It was the only way I could deal with her at that age. It’s still a family joke that I once told my Mom that I didn’t want any lasagna because it makes gross sounds when you cut it.

    I think I have to sit with this for a little bit – this is half relief and half “now what?”

  32. I just recently discovered that the nightmare that I have been trapped in for as long as I can remember has a name and that others are suffering in much of the same way. As a child, I would hide in my room or go into complete rages when i would hear people biting or picking their nails, chewing loudly, tapping– you name it. As an adult, when invited to family dinners, I would eat in one room and everyone else in another. At 37, I’ve been told, “you’re an adult, don’t you think you should “get over it?” Get over it?? Clearly nobody I’ve ever met (especially my family has any idea the degree to which this problem torments me and sends me right over the edge. Last week I read the story of a person who had the EXACT same problem! Better yet, they put a name to it, meaning more than just she and I suffered from it. “MISOPHONIA” made me finally feel validated and that I wasn’t crazy or just a “bitch.” Much love and luck to everyone else suffering from misophonia– may we all find a little peace.

  33. I feel really bad putting this because one person said you either know you have it or you don’t have it. But, i’m really young and i think i have it but i’m not sure. Lots of sounds bother me ,especially a hair dryer. When i hear people even talking in a car it bothers me so much. When people click a pen, slurp a drink, chew on food, breath really loud, clocks ticking, lawn mowers, dishes banging, wrappers being crinkled, dogs barking, floors creaking, cars, even rain dripping on the roof, the list goes on and on.

    1. I praise God you know it’s Misophonia so you wont hate yourself for over 50 years like I did!

    2. It’s interesting to read about the wide range of trigger sounds and how they affect different people differently. You mentioned lawn mowers as being one of your many triggers. In my case, car/truck engine traffic noise is my current worst trigger. For me, having a loud lawnmower nearby provides great relief from certain types of traffic noise, even though that traffic noise might be fairly far away and infrequent.

  34. just discovered misophonia, kerry catona s therapists ( on this morning ) have cured people from it. they are expensive, but train other therapist to offer a cheaper version… this condition is bringing me to my knees litteraly, i m exhausted…. its ruined who i used to be, & its getting worse & worse….i really hope that one day i get cured, sooner rather than later…

    1. PLEASE be careful when seeking treatment. If it works so easily, why do we all still suffer? Misophonia is a neurological disorder. It cannot be “therapized” away like a phobia. We cannot think our way out of the reflexive responses our brains have to certain stimuli that we have become sensitized through by repetition.
      The list of providers you see is a group of audiologists who can help you to cope with having misophonia but they cannot cure it.

  35. Thank you for this article. I just recently moved into a new apartment in a new city with my girlfriend of two years. I’ve dealt with noises from neighbors in the past and just moved out of a quiet house in a good neighborhood. Last night we slept in the apartment in sleeping bags and I heard every single noise and ended up saying to hell with it and looking up why I was so enraged at every door closing or neighbor coughing and every single peep that I could hear and why she was unphased by what I thought were the most annoying sounds in the world. I look forward to reading the rest of your blogs, but it’s great to know that I’m not just being an asshole when I say that I want to move out already and find something in the country and that I have some loose wires upstairs. I still want to move to the countryside, but it’ll be great to deal with this problem as every noise alerts or enrages me and it would hurt our relationship more if I didn’t know about this. Thank you thank you thank you. It’s a weight lifted off my shoulders knowing that others are dealing with this and that there is treatment to deal with it.

    1. there are thousands of us who have come to realize we are not alone. there are some excellent websites for reading about peoples experiences with ways to cope and attempts at treatment. please google misophonia and check it all out!!!
      http://www.misophonia.info is a great place to start

  36. lifewithmisophonia- You have done an amazing thing with this blog. I work in an office setting with shoulder to shoulder cubicles. I am constantly hearing the sound of keyboard typing and im not even going to get into “Chipotle Day”….. free ships for everyone… AAAHHHHHHH!!! LOL…. not really though uuggghhhhh….. Everyone in a while I will check out this site to hear new stories and hope that someone has discovered something groundbreaking. Even though nothing substantial has come through, reading other’s posts is somewhat calming….

    PS. The girl in front of me is eating chips….. with her mouth open…. and has no regard for others….with misophonia.

    PSS. Why doesn’t Microsoft Word recognize the word “Misophonia”!?!?!? Unbelievable……

  37. wow!! I am so happy that I thought about looking into my suffering with abrupt noises. I thought I hated people and life, but things are much more pleasant and easier to deal with when I’m wearing some headphones, earplugs, or ear protectors.
    It’s been a long time but I’m glad to see I am not alone in this. I really suffer much, my nervous system feels totally burnt out at this point, because of how easily I startle and the constant irritation I feel because of noise. I’ve lost a lot of friends because I can’t stand hearing the ringer on my phone, that’s just one example of how noise has been a constant problem for me most of my life. I’m just happy to see I’m not the only one. Other people usually invalidate my experiences. Thank you for writing about it!

  38. Wow, reading all of this makes me feel some what normal, Thank You to the original author and all the great replies!!

  39. I would love to hear the outcome of your visit with the misophonia specialist. I get these over emotional reactions when I hear any type of saliva noise, and its really effecting my relationships; not only with my boyfriend, but with colleagues and friends.

    Can you let me know how you go?

  40. So love this article it so describes, me at best married 2 yrs and can’t stand my husband loud deep voice it drives me nuts I always find myself trying him he is talking to loud and ask him to speak softer smh. Then him clanking utensils on a plate makes me nutty potato chop bags ice cracking dresser draws being shut ugh it’s running me stark raving mad and lets not talk about his smacking and chewing food I just leave the room I need help I love him but this keeps us operated a lot I watch tv low he watches it extremely loud a are like two senior citizens we don’t do much together

  41. Christina Johnston | Reply

    Has anyone found any relief with medication? My daughter suffers from Misophonia and as a parent it is heartbreaking and stressful trying to maintain a positive relationship while being constantly verbally and sometimes physically abused. I notice that lack of control is worst when my daughter is under stress. I am so happy to have all of you who openly discuss this condition .. we have tried to seek help from doctors however they will not even entertain the idea that this exists. Very frustrating, however my daughter is a beautiful healthy and smart young woman and for that I am thankful :)

  42. Soooo.. It is cery much ruling my life and when i tell my family or anyone else that i have it.. They either make the same noise on purpose or call me crazy… They really dont think its a real condition.. Even when i go to church i sit in the back because id hear every noise that goes on behind me.. I miss out on a lot and my life is pass me by and i just turned 18.. Life is hell for me so please help me

    1. I have suffered from Misophonia since I was a child. I told my story to the NY Times and the Today show. Shortly after, I headed the advice of a fellow suffer who reported that he and his son were all but cured following neurofeedback and I began using Nuerofeedback. My Miso has been reduced by 90%. It’s been such a radical life altering experience that I now have bought NeurOptomal neurofeedback systems to try to help other people. Please fellow suffers look into. Feel free to start at my website for info http://www.holisticbraintraining.com and feel free to contact me with questions. Neurofeedback has amazing results for many neurological and other issues.

  43. Wow, I was happy to see this. I’m sorry for all of your suffering. I know how hard it is. I believe I suffer from this. It is strongest with my husband. Chewing, spoon clicking on bowl, brushing teeth & gargling!!!….drives me insane. He does take it personally. He doesn’t really understand that it’s not him, though it makes me irritated with him for making these noises, so I may inadvertently give him the impression that it is him!! I find it interesting that it’s the ones closest to you that annoy you the most and it has definitely become progressively worse with my husband. It’s also interesting that my 2 daughters don’t bother me at all…. Though, a coworker behind me eats apples and scrapes yogurt cups….I try to distract myself, but sometimes I have to just get up & go for a walk.
    Thank you for this site. I will have to show it to my husband.

  44. Argh. I know I have this. I too get highly annoyed by people chewing loudly, and the worst is gum! So many people seem to chew it with their mouths open and it makes the most annoying sound. And don’t get me started on the people who make those popping noises with it on purpose! However…the absolute WORST trigger for me is when people cough or clear their throats and you can tell there is a bunch of mucus in their throat. And people who snort mucus too. It really can cause me to break down crying, start sweating/breathing fast, and I have even broken things in my room and scratched my own arms just to keep from going and assaulting the offender. I currently feel like I am trapped in the middle of hell because my mom has bronchitis. And I feel like a really terrible person for getting annoyed with someone who is sick, but no matter what I just can’t seem to help getting upset/enraged whenever she loudly clears her throat and you can just hear all the wet, thick phlegm shifting around!!! She also does that after she eats, even when she isn’t sick at all. And it’s just driven me more and more crazy over the last few years. Normally I’m able to cope because I just keep a fan on in my room, and I just make sure to stay in my room for a little while right after we’ve eaten lunch/dinner. Or if we go out to eat I just listen to my iPod during the car ride home and block her out. But when she’s sick, she’s doing it literally every five seconds, and, it is so loud that I can wear earplugs (I actually went out and bought some the other day) AND turn my fan all the way up on high (it is just BLASTING) and I can STILL hear her no matter what part of the house she’s in! She actually was in the room right next to my bedroom this morning when I was still sleeping and she woke me up with that awful noise. I literally am living in fear of this noise and I am staying in my room all day with my headphones on since that’s the only thing that will actually block her out. I’m worried my parents are going to get suspicious and ask me why I’m never eating with them anymore. I feel like a total crazy person when I say this, but one time when both my parents went out (my mom actually isn’t so sick that she can’t go anywhere) I used that opportunity to hoard all of the non-perishable food that I could in my room, just so I could eat in my room and so I won’t even have to go out into the kitchen to get anything (even stepping into the kitchen for one minute means that I’ll probably have to hear the noise). I almost wonder if I have the “phobia” part because I actually am almost afraid to come out of my room and have my ears assaulted. I can’t tell my mom about this because I’m afraid she’ll think I’m crazy. I did politely ask her to stop one time (a long time ago, when she wasn’t sick) but she just got kind of huffy and told me she couldn’t help it.

    I feel like a crazy and terrible person, but it’s good to at least know there are others who have some of the same problems as me….

  45. Rainbow Bright :) | Reply

    Wow! I am relieved and surprised to discover all of this and all of you! Thank you all for sharing your stories and struggles. It is comforting to know that there are many other people out there who understand, even though I wouldn’t wish this upon anyone. It is also comforting to know that this “issue” that I’ve struggled with for as long as I can remember, has a name, and some possible treatments.

    I can’t believe that I never thought to look this up before tonight, especially since I’m always researching things on the internet. I’m not sure exactly when it began for me, but it was over twenty years ago. I’m pretty certain that my mom and sister have it as well and I always thought my mom must have passed it on to us. I have often wondered what was wrong with me and why I couldn’t find a way to overcome it. I’ve also been baffled by how other people were not annoyed by the sounds like I was. When people chew, breathe heavily, snore, bite or pick at their nails, and/or click pens, I want to scream and beat the crap out of them at the same time. I often have to leave the room.

    This has definitely caused some issues in my marriage. I’ve tried to explain to my husband that it’s not him personally and that I just can’t help it! For the first time tonight he said said something about how I hadn’t tried to do anything about it. I realized that he was right. That is what led me here.

    I’m not sure what neurofeedback is, but I’m definitely going to look into it. I know what biofeedback is and I wonder if it’s the same thing? I’ll be doing a lot of research for sure! I am excited about the possibility of finding a treatment that may help, even though it sounds like there’s not much out there. I have been into yoga and meditation for a long time and have often thought that perhaps I should just go live in a cave in India and meditate for the rest of my life so that I didn’t have to hear the annoying sounds anymore. Ha! I’m pretty social though, so I didn’t imagine that I’d last too long. :)

    I’ll share a funny story… Ten years ago, I was teaching for my second year at a private school and my fifth and sixth grade students would often click their pens. So naturally, I would repeatedly ask them to stop clicking their pens so that I didn’t have to beat them with a ruler. Kidding…. So one day, the three male musketeers (aka troublemakers) in my class devised a plan. They all began incessantly clicking their pens at the same time, and needless to say, I snapped! I took the pens from them and any other “clicky” pens that they had and I wrote them up. The very next day I sent a note home to all of the parents that clicky pens were no longer allowed in my classroom and that they would all need to bring in pens that did not click. Can you say psycho??? That’s how I felt, but I didn’t care! I couldn’t bear the thought of that happening again. And that was the end of that.

    About six years later, I found many of my old students on Facebook and reconnected with them. After some back and forth conversation with one of the three musketeers (who was quite the smart ass), I asked where he was planning on attending college. He said he was hoping to go to Devry, which I knew was a lie/joke because he was somewhat of a prodigy child and I knew he would have to be going to a more renowned university. So I played along and asked what he was going to major in at Devry and guess what he said?

    Yep, you guessed it…pen clicking! I got quite the kick out of that and I told him that my husband had majored in the same thing. Let’s just say that I’ve wanted to stick a few clicky pens where the sun don’t shine! ;-p

    Sending warm thoughts and prayers that we all may find a way to live in peace, free from misophonia. Thanks again everyone!

  46. Really pleased I found your site, and the explanations you left there about the possible causes of this condition, which I’ve been looking for a quite while. Not exactly it means the wires of the auditory and limbic system are connected, but that inside the brain it seems that a reaction to certain sound signals produce in the limbic system (emotion control mostly) the production of neurotransmissors (substances that control emotion and mental condition) that are associated with a negative feeling. How this connection starts in the first place I guess is known, but that would explain why the sounds are so selective.

    Appart from misophonia, I’ve been an OCD sufferer since I was 7 years old, and while I’ve managed to control it for years and actually achieve quite a few things (I got many national prizes in knowdlege contests), recently at my 2nd year of university I started to develop the misophonia to 2 specific sounds.
    My first trigger is when people smash doors or objects, I really get very frustrated as I lose concentration and just feel pain in my ears; this mostly happens in my house and with the neighbors, and I get angered to the point I’ve actually started shouting them to “shut up” or “stop it”, although I know they don’t intend too and I feel kinda bad for the, The second trigger I developed 1 month after this was the intense hate to whenever someone whistles. It comes to the point whenever I hear it I inmediatly cover with force my ears, I feel that sound almost like a burning sword that is piercing in my head. I hate it mostly when they do it during classes, or specially during exams; I can’t concentrate and basically I lost a lot of time until my classmate finishes his song. In this case, however, I really feel he has no respect, and even other buddies, although they do not experience misophonia, have told me they also find annoying mostly this classmate spends all the time whistling aloud as if he was in his house.

    My dad has got me some earplugs recently that are at least a bit helping me dish out the annoying sounds, but since the protection is about 32 Db I can’t take them totally out (I am actually using them now), and besides I developed a very sensitive ear since I play piano. Although I know I can get some that protect more, I want to be able to simply tolerate the sounds as I know the environment I will be working on will make me face a lot of these “challengues”. At least I suggest in the first place earplugs for you guys to start with, or filter it with music since it helps a lot for you to relax. Regarding the cures, I can’t discard there will be one, and I’m actually planning the possibility to include this topic into my future researches when I finish my Ph.D. For the while, the best therapies know are the ones mentioned here by our dear blogger.

    I am glad to read your experiences and see I am not alone, and I hope we can help each other. If anyone wants someone to hear them or looking for some councels, I am open brothers and sisters also in case you need me. You can send me anytime an email to wgames.gamekids@gmail.com

  47. Wow, in my blog I just referenced an early memory of throwing out my brother’s food in a chewing noise rage at the age of 10, followed by years of chasing the silent hours, and then today my work colleague mentioned misophonia, which I had never heard of, which I then looked up, which brought me here, to this blog, also on WordPress, only using the SAME FREAKING template I use for my blog. Mind. Blown.

    http://cognitivebehaveyourself.com/2013/05/13/sleep-slidin-away-part-ii-the-results/

  48. To me the noise repeats over and over in my head, does anyone else have this?

  49. I’m pretty sure that I have mild misophonia. Whenever people are chewing gum with their mouths open or just chewing really loudly, I get so irritated! How can I help this?

  50. I’ve always been bothered by certain sounds, mainly people smacking or crunching their food and audibly swallowing drinks. I also have mild OCD; I thought they might be connected (because I also have visual triggers), so I did an Internet search and came up with misophonia. I cried from relief when I read articles about it. My mom had suggested I had hypersensitivity, but mostly my family just insisted I was irritable. They would say it was PMS, just me being stressed out, or I was just a brat. They have an attitude of “get over it” when it comes to things like this.
    I don’t know when I started noticing sounds, but as I’ve gotten older it’s just gotten worse (I’m 18 now). I was schooled at home when I was younger, so I think it started when I moved to a public school and everyone in class would eat chips and candy. It really hurt me that people would take other things seriously, like my mother’s anxiety disorder, but never believed me about misophonia. I’ve always been very courteous about it even though it makes me incredibly angry and violent-feeling. I will quietly leave a room or decline an invitation to go out to eat, so that I don’t hurt anyone’s feelings, but my family still gets offended and complains about it a lot. I talked to them about it a lot (my sister has it, too), and they are getting somewhat better about it. My mother will make sure I’m not in the room if she’s eating something, and if my siblings think their eating will bother me, they tell me before they start. My father is still very angry about it; it’s his eating that I hate the most and he antagonizes me, eating around me on purpose and insisting that I’m making it all up.
    I’m glad my friends, boyfriend, and (some of) my family are very understanding, but I’m really terrified of what will happen when I go to college this fall. I can’t exactly tell my roommate not to eat, and the cafeteria is one of my biggest fears (I hid in different classrooms rather than going to the cafeteria in high school). I wish I could find better ways to deal with it or at least suppress the violent urges that I get from hearing people eat.

  51. Omg I seriously thought I was alone with this!
    Apparently ever since I was 3 years old, I have hated the sound of people breathing and snoring! It drives me insane to the point where I want to rip my hair out! I’m now 21 and my parents think I’m immature but I just can’t help it :( I remember at one point moving to sleep in the bath tub in a hotel room because I could stand my dads breathing. Help would be greatly appreciated, I’m driving my family crazy!!!

    1. Please google Misophonia support groups. There are several private pages on Facebook and – terrific sites -one out of the UK and one from Australia. Both have archived helpful hints and scientific advances and info you can print and share to help people understand. The pre-written letters found on the Australian site may assist you in getting any special accomodations you may need in school.
      http://www.misophonia-uk.org/
      http://misophonia.com/

  52. I had never heard of this until a couple of days ago so I decided to do more research. Now that I know what it is, so much of my like makes a lot more sense! Ever since I was 6 or 7 (currently 17) I would scream at people everytime they would chew gum or eat. Even just seeing their mouth move a certain way made me want to rip their jaw off. Now it has grown to include more sounds such as breathing, typing, sliding something across a desk or table, uneven footsteps, the letter ‘t’, etc. I’m ecstatic to have found out what this is, I just thought I was crazy. But sadly, that’s what my parents believe because I am so young. And my doctor is the same way.

  53. Wow this is really helpful. I started noticing certain noises were becoming really hard to listen to around age 7. Some of my many triggers are chewing, breathing, sniffling, coughing, squeaking, etc. I am now 14 and my parents just think its hormones but I would really like to get it fixed, because I can barely get through a dinner without yelling or having violent thoughts. I also have a younger sibling who is quite the opposite of me being outspoken and loud. She regularly screams and shrieks and with parents who really don’t care anymore and instead of trying to fix the problem antagonize me even more it doesn’t stop. I’m glad to at least know whats causing this.

  54. Oh my God, I have had this since I was a small child. I thought I was crazy, at least that’s what my parents and friends told me. This is extremely relieving to know I’m not alone, and that it is now something that I can explain to other people with actual evidence to back it up. The more I read about this, the more it sounds EXACTLY like me. It started with chewing food, the terrible squishy mind bending sound of chewing. Now it’s evolved into things such as crows cawing, hammers thumping, people’s voices through walls, flys buzzing, and any sort of small insignificant ticking noises, clocks being a strange exception. My girlfriends jaw pops when she chews food and I hate the fact that I can’t be around her when she eats because the sound of her chewing and the jaw popping drives me insane. The only way to avoid becoming irritated in the situation is if I am eating something as well or if I drown it out somehow. I can’t sleep at night without a fan on or else the ringing in my ears makes my blood boil to the point where I want to throw a screaming fit. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder as a child, which I have read is something that is commonly accompanied with misophonia. All I can say is thank you, for showing me I am not a crazy, anal retentive irritable weirdo. Thank you so much.

    1. Thanks for sharing your story. I remember it was really a relief for me, too, when I found out I wasn’t the only one who had this. Best of luck to you.

  55. Karen Horberger | Reply

    So glad to know that I’m not alone. My husband thinks that I’m crazy. I can’t stand to hear him chomp ice, which he does all the time, or smack while chewing, or what sounds like pounding his fingers to music while in the car! It gets worse all the time and he thinks I’m just looking for something to complain about. I’m 51 and it just keeps getting worse. I can hear the littlest noises that no one else hears. The loud noise doesn’t bother me that much. I was just reading an article about Kelly Ripa that says she has this. I’m definitely going to look into this further. Thanks for the info provided here.

  56. Like Karen Horberger, I just heard about Misophonia because of Kelly Ripa! I have had the symptoms so long that I just accepted them as a part of life. I would get so angry with my Mom and other family members and co-workers for chewing! Most of the time they assumed I was being dramatic, but the rage just seemed to sweep right up to the for front of my brain, and it is all I can do to not swoon!

    There is a morning show on one of our local radio stations that I can’t listen to because I can hear EVERYTHING that goes on in their mouths. They have alot of dead air, and its like the last noises they just made with their mouths are reverberating in the silence… I’m squeezing my stress ball just thinking about it.

    Icing on the cake… I work in a Call Center for a huge company. The noises that people make is so irritating, the sighs, too much saliva, thick tongues, breathy voices, ultra nasal. I cannot tolerate hearing someones tongue touch the roof of their mouth. As you could probably guess, these callers will experience a longer than usual hold time. Hey, it my way of coping! :)

    Anyways, I digress… and use all my break time. I just wanted to thank you for posting some much about Misophonia. Its great knowing that I’m not the only one who has had this happen. It gives me hope that with alot more positive thinking, laughs and lots of understanding I and everyone else who might have Misophonia will eventually be just fine!

    1. Too funny about the long hold times! Having a good sense of humor helps cope with misophonia for sure.

  57. My 7 yr old HFA daughter has this. she hates the sound of coughing,crying and scraping pans. But the coughing is the most debilitating to her. Lets face it its everywhere everyday. I’ve had to take her out of school because she these sounds would just drive her insane. She would actually go after anyone who would cough or cry and try to hurt them and when she couldn’t get to them she would bite herself just to relieve her anger.
    When we are walking down the street or in a resturant and someone coughs she will yell SHUTUP!! If a baby cries she will do the same and sometimes even say someone needs to hurt that baby. It’s so weird .know matter how you try to explain things to her she always comes back to saying ” why do they do that, just to make me mad? “. She gets so mad you can se the rage in her face. She dosent care who you are, stranger,adult, child or who ever she will yell at you or push you when you cough. It keeps her from making friends because as soon as they make a noise she dosent like she is rude to them and won’t play with them anymore. It’s really sad. I wish there was something I could do to help her. People just don’t understand.

  58. Does anyone have misophonia accompanied by a need to mimic the sound/ behavior? I cannot tolerate certain sounds people make, like sniffling, and will have to mimic the sound myself to alleviate the anxiety. I also cannot watch anyone tap a cigarette or will have to mimic that action too. It’s almost like a combination of misophonia and mirror touch synesthesia.

    1. actually some suggest that misophonia is a form of synesthesia and it’s not uncommon to have multiple form of synesthesia. Personally I’m both a synesthete and a misophone and for a long time I found it weird that I had two rare conditions at once that have to do with my perception of the world, until recently I read about it on wikipedia, so that can be it. It can also be related to some form of OCD, which I definitely have :p (or a mild form of it at least)

    2. I, too, have found myself mimicking the sounds that enrage me. In my case, it’s really weird because my main trigger is car/truck engine traffic noise. Another strong trigger is my upstairs neighbor’s door-slamming, banging and floor-stomping sounds. Mimicking these mechanical sounds seems crazy to me, but I still do it instinctively because it does seem to provide some small element of relief just to let the frustration out. I also used to mimic my older brother’s silent repetitive behaviors such as hair twiddling and tongue sucking for the same reasons. Thank God, I no longer have to live with him or near the kind of traffic I used to, but I’m still dealing with my upstairs neighbor’s noises on a daily basis. I’m always hoping I won’t run into her in the hallways or in the stairwells because I’ve yelled at her through my ceiling so many times I’m sure she thinks I’m crazy!

      P.s., I also have mild OCD, recently-developed tinnitus, suffered head trauma as a very small child and have played the piano by ear for over 50 years, if that has any bearing on it.

  59. I found out about this condition just a few days ago and I have been researching it and the more i look at the symptoms the more it makes sense. I have read a lot of the comments above and i realize that everyone is a lot older than me. I am only 15 years old. However my symptoms are looking to be just as severe as everyone else’s. This really scares me because everyone tells me it gets worse with time. What does this mean for me? Am i gonna eventually go completely insane? Well I am gonna give a little insight to my life. I have a sister with down syndrome and she is 18 years old. Because she has down syndrome, it makes it where she has to smack while eating because of her enlarged tongue. This has always been hard for me. Ive always known i had some type of hearing tolerance problem but I never thought it could be an official problem. When i am in the car with my mom she makes certain noises with her nails that drives me insane!! This problem has caused me to get in trouble so many times. My mom constantly calls me an ungrateful brat because i constantly go crazy and yell at her. She just thought I was lying to her to get out of trouble when i tried to explain to her all the noises i was hearing. So finding out about this problem really has saved our relationship and i will be forever grateful for that.

  60. I definitely have this issue. My brother is hard of hearing and blasts the tv all the time. I want to kill myself to get away from him and his tv. I have punched my laptop in frustration over the tv. There is no counseling or treatment available that can get me to be ok with the sounds. I have issues with people chewing and sounds that are repetitive. I have been in therapy and have found it is nothing but bullcrap. Therapy does nothing for sound sensitivity. So called exposure therapy is nothing but nonsense. A tv blaring all the time that you have to live with is HELL. And eventually I will take my life cuz this world is not meant for me. I would have to live in the middle of nowhere with no sound to be able to think normally. The sound sensitivity is so bad that I can’t even think straight when I am in the middle of an episode. Right now my prick brother is blaring his tv once again. I have to put up with it cuz he owns the house. I live on ssi and can’t afford to move out on my own. This is destroying me. This world will not change for people that have this issue. We have to learn to cope as best as we can WE ARE TOLD. It is a bunch of nonsense. It doesn’t work. I was told by a therapist to not think negatively about the muffler sounds accross the street from my house at the stadium I call hell. Well it hasn’t worked. I get explosive angry when I hear hundreds of cars peeling out with their mufflers from the stadium cuz they are coming from an event of cars racing around the parking lot. Good luck but I have yet to find an answer to sound sensitivity. Anti depressants and anti psychotic medicine does nothing for it. I’ve tried both.

  61. This makes so much sense. My mom breathes loudly and it makes me angry, and I’m not sure why I find it so annoying. Its hard for me to stay in the same room and she refuses to believe me. Even without my hearing aid (which I only wear in one ear for minor hearing loss) and I can still hear her breathing and it sends me into a rage.
    I just hope it won’t affect me in college.
    Thank you for all of the info!

  62. Hi, I’m 18 years old now, I started having this disorder like 8 years ago. Even though this drives me mad, it hasn’t affected my social life. I can go out normally.
    Now, there’s a specific sound I do hate, it drives me mad. When people finish to eat, they make a sound with their lips. -It’s a little bit difficult to explain, even in my own language, Spanish-. Anyway, that sound makes me want to punch the face of the person who did it, it makes me go mad. But, I can’t do that, I just have to ignore it, so my friends won’t realize that. They have never realized about it. Now, if I’m alone walking and I hear that, I just try to breath and relax.. Just Self-control! I don-t want to people or my friends know about this disorder.

    It’s a little bit disappointing too, because there’s not a cure, there are just treatments. I don’t think in my country (Peru) we have treatments for that..
    I also feel depressed sometimes because there’s no way to stop this and being normal again.
    Well, the only good thing is to know I’m not the only person with this disorder, I thought I was crazy or ill. I wish this disorder didn’t exist.

    Good website. Thanks.

  63. Hello. My daughter, who is 8, has been displaying very odd, and very frustrating behavior for ~1-2 years now. Of late she gets very angry, very quickly, if she hears a conversation between me and my wife (…or if someone chews loudly, or if my dog licks loudly, etc.). She claims that the sound of our ‘S’ words drive her crazy. It seems to be far worse if we are in a car together. She goes from happy little girl to b*&%* very quickly, and she is relentless in trying to get us to stop talking – even in the face of threats of punishment.

    In the past few days, since discovering ‘Misophonia’ (that this is an actual ailment), I have been paying very close attention to her behavior, and thinking about/remembering past behavior. Just today, on our annual trip home from the beach, she was again displaying her disgust with our conversation in the car (which, as usual, resulted in us getting angry and yelling at her, and her yelling back, and her brother’s fun being ruined). This went on for ~1 hour, off and on as we had discussions. I will note that during this time she complained of being hungry. After stopping for breakfast however, we observed that we could hold a good conversation without her saying anything about it. After reflecting on this, I realized that past occurrences have been similar – that her condition seems worse when hungry, or in a bad mood for whatever reason. Also, ~1 year ago she had a phase where she would yell at her 7 year old brother for breathing too loud. THis went on periodically for a few months, but we have not witnessed this behavior for some time now.

    I just talked with her, asking her what makes her angry about our conversations. She explained that in a car she feels like she can’t get out, and that makes her more angry, while conversations between me and my wife in the house are not as bad because she can go to her room or go outside. It seems that just knowing she can get away helps, even if she doesn’t actually go away.

    Sorry for rambling on – I am trying to post this while its fresh on my mind, and before I have to get back to household duties. After reading what I have written above, I have not even come close to capturing some of the anger/yelling/frustration/etc that has come as a result of what we thought was bad behavior, but may be due to this medical condition. I am glad to have found this site. I also just want to know if some of the things I have mentioned sound familiar to those of you who suffer badly from Misophonia. If you don’t mind answering, I have a few questions:
    1) Do you find that you are sometimes more susceptible to a particular trigger than at other times?
    2) Do your triggers come and go, or once you acquire one does it stay for life?
    3) Did you start out, over the first few years, with occasional bouts of rage, and it worsen in time, or did it come on full strength in the beginning, with only the triggers changing/being added in time (i.e. should I expect that my daughter’s reactions are going to get worse, in addition to the number of triggers that she currently has?),
    4) is there a method used to formally diagnose misophonia?

    As I am writing this I am listening to my daughter chastise my wife for exhaling too loudly (another trigger point), and I still can’t help but feel that she is just being bitchy. I am trying to learn the difference between her potential ailment, and simple bad behavior…

    THanks for any input/advice you have.

    -Tom

    1. Tom,

      I just turned 21 and I know exactly what your daughter is going through. When I hit age 11, all of a sudden the sound of people breathing or chewing food, or the soft “s” sound, would drive me absolutely crazy, and it still does. When I hear one of those “trigger sounds,” it becomes all I can think about, all I can process. My whole body tenses and the fight or flight instinct kicks in. I wait for the next chew or breath and each repetition makes me more tense. It is the world’s greatest relief when the noise stops. My parents used to try to make me stay in the room for meals, but when that escalated into tears one night, they began to understand. I can vividly remember having to leave Church one Easter in tears because the people around me were breathing too loudly. I wish, more than anything, that I could make it stop.

      The sound of my dad breathing, or my mom chewing gum, or my brothers playing basketball outside all drove me mental. Meal times, car rides, and church became the biggest struggles, as those are times where things are fairly quiet and the sounds can be heard the loudest.

      A few tips that might help: in the car, I ask my parents to turn on the radio and to turn the a/c on to help drown out noises. I keep earbuds or headphones with me everywhere I go so I can drown out noises. I ask for the tv to be on during meals so that it helps to fade some of the sounds like people chewing, and I have a small fan in my bedroom so I don’t hear other noises around the house as loudly.

      I think that it was hardest for me during the teenage years when floods of hormones combined with sound sensitivity led to terrible fights with my parents as I couldn’t control my anger. Recently, I’ve noticed that these things are annoying me a little less, although I think it is mostly because I’m learning how to calmly leave situations when I feel the sounds taking over my head.

      If your daughter gets annoyed in the car, maybe stop at a gas station for a minute and have her go walk around inside and get a drink just to calm down. (A lot of the anxiety and frustration caused by misophonia is caused by anticipating the next noise, like the in-out of someone breathing, and this might help break the cycle and “reset” her sensitivity.) If she is annoyed at dinner, let her go wherever she needs to be so that anger and frustration doesn’t build up.

      But most importantly, do not let your daughter think that she is broken or sick or crazy in any way. Try your absolute hardest to understand that this really is beyond her control, it is a real problem that she never wanted to have. Nobody would choose to be annoyed by the sound of people breathing or people eating, because it can make time with friends and family beyond miserable. Your daughter is probably confused and angry that she hears these sounds that other people can so easily ignore, but she is cursed to live her life afraid of when the next sound might make her angry.

      http://www.misophonia-provider.com/PROVIDERS_BY_REGION.html — This is a link to a few people who treat misophonia across the US. I hope your daughter and your family can find a treatment that works! Good luck!

      1. Grace, thanks for your reply. It is very helpful to talk with someone who shares this affliction. Thanks for your suggestions also.

        My daughter’s behavior seems to be intermittent. It seems when she is in a bad mood (which unfortunately is probably more often than not), her triggers seem to be much more sensitive. It seems though that when she is in a good mood its hard to tell she suffers from this affliction. We had a long talk today, and even at 8 it seems she is aware that she is different. She said she doesn’t know why these certain things make her so angry, and she said she knows that everyone else is not like this. She described that her heart beats fast, and she gets immediately very mad when she hears these particular sounds. She describes very much what people here are describing. It is odd to me though that the triggers more irritating when she is in a bad mood. It is also odd that it seems, from what people say here, that hearing these noises from those people closest to you bother you the most. If it is a physical problem as described above, it would seem that the sound would have the same effect no matter who or where it came from..? I don’t really expect an answer from you, I guess I’m still just having a hard time understanding what is going on.

        If you don’t mind, i’ll re-ask these questions:
        1) Do you find that you are sometimes more susceptible to a particular trigger than at other times?
        2) Do your triggers come and go, or once you acquire one does it stay for life?
        3) Did you start out, over the first few years, with occasional bouts of rage, and it worsen in time, or did it come on full strength in the beginning, with only the triggers changing/being added in time (i.e. should I expect that my daughter’s reactions are going to get worse, in addition to the number of triggers that she currently has?),
        4) is there a method used to formally diagnose misophonia?

        Again, I really appreciate your help.

    2. hey im suffering from this disease too .try to keep out of people chewing food loudly .listen to songs to ignore the ‘s’ sounds coming .this would cure the disease soon…please try

    3. Tom: Here are my replies to your questions–I hope this helps.

      1) Do you find that you are sometimes more susceptible to a particular trigger than at other times?
      Yes, it seems that when I am tired, stressed out or nervous, the triggers seem somewhat stronger.

      2) Do your triggers come and go, or once you acquire one does it stay for life?

      My triggers have stayed for life. They started when I was 8 and are still with me at 62, along with the new triggers that were acquired along the way.

      3) Did you start out, over the first few years, with occasional bouts of rage, and it worsen in time, or did it come on full strength in the beginning, with only the triggers changing/being added in time (i.e. should I expect that my daughter’s reactions are going to get worse, in addition to the number of triggers that she currently has?),

      At first, I had only one trigger–snoring, no matter how lightly, it would drive me out of the room. It seemed to have come on full strength from the start because it was coupled with a traumatic event. Each new trigger seems to have come on full strength from the start and has never let up, but has not gotten worse, either. Most have been directly associated with strong negative events.

      4) is there a method used to formally diagnose misophonia?

      I don’t know, but I would guess there is. My own self diagnosis is based upon reading this and other similar websites and relating profoundly across the board with what is being said. It seems that the only differences from one person to the next are the types of triggers and the intensities of each to the person experiencing them. I’m surely hoping that someone will develop a remedy at some point in time. I’ve tried Neuro-Linguistic-Programming (NLP) and Emotional Freedom Tapping (EFT) with no success, but I must say I did not have much confidence in the particular practitioners that I dealt with. Good luck with your daughter!

  64. I am 42 years old and I have been dealing with my hatred of sounds since I was around 11. I have suffered through years of my family and friends thinking I’m just intolerant and hateful. But I truly cannot help how I feel when I hear certain sounds. I feel total rage inside of me if I am forced to sit next to someone at work or in a meeting if they are chewing their gum, or eating on something. My boss is the worst. She keeps a bag of these hard bagel chips at her desk and chomps on them all day long. This is my boss, so I can’t say a word to her about it. And I can’t just get up and leave the office every time she eats. I’ve sat at my desk and literally teared up to the point of sobbing because I felt trapped. The older I get, the worse sounds are affecting me. I can no longer go to the movies because of the sound of people eating popcorn. If I’m in a store and someone is chomping their gum, I have to leave. I’ve actually dropped a class in college because of someone chomping their gum. I have been looking online for any type of treatment that is near me and I cannot find anything. Do I need a therapist? Psychiatrist? I am desperate. Please give me some guidance. Thank you.

    1. I feel the exact same way. I HATE going into work because of the abundance of enraging noises I have to hear every single day. I listen to headphones but sometimes I can still hear the noises over my already very loud music and I get SO angry, SO furious that I can still hear it, I literally have cried.. a few times. I take very frequent trips to the hall way or bathroom just to hear silence and get that.. calmer.. feeling back in again.

  65. I know that this is what I am suffering from. I am so annoyed at the noises when my family eats that I have to leave the room. It could be something soft and I get very upset and emotional. I have felt that it was just me until I saw Kelly Ripa and googled her to see things about her and read that she has issues with the same things that I have. I wish I would have known it before now I can tell my family it is not just ME. Thank you for explaining this more in depth. I thought I was crazy or something.

  66. I also have self-diagnosed myself with Misophonia. I have been suffering from it since I was a teen. I used to get SO angry at the dinner table to the point of flipping plates, snapping, eventually crying if the noises didn’t stop. I can’t be around anyone chewing gum, sucking candy, or eating loudly in general. Now that I’m older and work..it’s still difficult for me. My coworkers make their own sets of noises that literally drive me to almost tears. One clears her throat non-stop all day, one breaths too loudly because he’s a 2 pack a day smoker and severely overweight, and there are a few others.. I get a tight feeling in my chest like I’m having severe anger or anxiety. I have to listen to my headphones all day LOUDLY. The other day neighborhood dogs would non stop barking and my dog was barking and I just became so overwhelmed with frustration and anger I snapped, I sat in the corner with my ears covered, crying, and screaming SHUT UP! I wasn’t okay until I couldn’t hear the noises anymore.. Just long enough for me to calm down. At that point, I felt like a weight was lifted and I was fine. I occasionally glare at my husband if he smacks his lips or slurps his drinks. He knows I struggle with this and stops immediately, but, there have been times that if I’m already annoyed and I hear a noises that enrages me, I get even MORE anger instantly and sometimes he’s the one it gets taken out on.. I feel horrible because I will yell at him and most of the time it’s not even his fault that I’m so mad. Just the noises I hear peak my anger in an instant it has to be let out.. I really wish there was a cure besides ear plugs and headphones because it’s so hard to deal with. I don’t even want to be at my desk at work anymore. I dread going in, or going to dinner with family/friends, and I can become enraged so quickly over stupid stupid noises (like clipping nails, whistling, sniffling) that people do and have NO idea how much it really bothers me. I don’t feel alone after reading this thread..but I really wish there was something else I can do to make it better..

  67. The sounds keep getting worse and worse…no doctor or therapist I’ve talked to knows what it is and it is beyond frustrating. Everyday things get worse. I can’t live like this…at first it was nice to know others had it but nothing is helping and I feel like I’m going insane. My family gets so annoyed and yells at me when I can’t handle it. Last time I told a counselor sniffing bothered me a lot she sniffed and said “how are you reacting to that?” It just pisses me off so much. It makes me feel like going back to self harm to cope. It is just getting too hard to handle

  68. Just discovered info on misophonia today and it’s such a relief to know that I’m not alone. I’ve been dealing with this since a young age. I’m 39. I have major issues with mouth sounds, slurping, utensils scraping, the sound of liquid being poured… Just this morning I was in a meeting a co worker has a very wet sounding mouth ugh even typing that just gave me a horrible feeling. Anyway.. usually when she speaks I have to close or tap my ears to lessen the sound so I can get through her speaking. Some days it’s not too bad and other days it’s unbearable! I have a hard time with my husbands chewing sounds and I’ve mentioned it a few times but feel bad and don’t want to make him feel bad because he isn’t doing anything wrong, it’s my issue. So I do my best to get through it usually tapping my ears or moving farther away. I haven’t shared this issue with many because I always thought it was just me being too critical. Anyway… thank you so much for the info and explanations.. makes me feel a lot better.

  69. It’s just strange for me to know others suffer from this disorder. I always thought I was the only one. I can’t say it makes me feel better knowing the disorder has a name. I have always kidded myself into believing I could somehow “get over it”. But understanding that it is a real condition, makes hope of a real solution seem farther away than ever.
    My only coping method is to avoid the situations as much as possible. And thank God for earplugs. Plus I have an amazingly understanding wife. That, more than anything has helped me deal with the stresses.
    We all have our issues in life. This is a difficult disorder to manage. But it isn’t terminal cancer. I would encourage all fellow sufferers to stay strong and be patient. Avoid the stressors and best as possible seek the good side of life.

  70. ” It’s pretty fascinating, really. But I’d be much more fascinated if I didn’t have to deal with it every day of my life.”

    I couldn’t have said it better myself. As someone who suffers from misophonia-like symptoms (I’ve never been diagnosed, but my sister has) and a psychology degree this information is fascinating and extremely helpful in better understanding the disorder. It’s comforting to know I’m not alone.

    1. Does anyone have the accompanying visual issues as well? This makes life so much harder. For example, I cannot watch anyone tapping a cigarette, chewing gum with mouth open, eating popcorn at the movies, a number of things. It’s the repeated motions that drive me crazy. I know there is an association with my misophonia but not sure what its called. When I see them, I have to repeat the movement in order to calm down. So I am tapping imaginary cigarettes and chewing imaginary gum until I can look away.

      1. Lol yes.. Eating with my father… If I plug my ears and I look up and see food rolling around in his mouth I have to leave or do it back.. It makes me extremely angry… And it all started when I was about 4-5 years old (and I am 36 now) no wonder I have high blood pressure

  71. I’ve had it since I was 8. If it’s physiological, I hope they find a physical cure. My coping strategies include xanax, leaving the room, and eating myself when someone else is eating to drown out the noise. It’s not good enough, and I really want someone in the medical community to try an experimental treatment of some kind. I’d do anything, try anything, to make this stop.

  72. I’m glad I came upon this. I really don’t know if I have it or not but I feel like I do. I can’t stand when people smack or slurp their drink, it makes me so mad. sometimes when my children are too loud it bothers me which makes me feel horrible. The way my husband eats sometimes bothers me or the way he wiggles his toes. I feel like I’m crazy

  73. I’m so relieved to hear about this. Everyone I’m my life just thinks I’m highly irritable, but sounds of crunching food or repetitive things like a pen clicking or a loud clock literally make me crazy. I get this crazy anxious feeling inside me like I wanna smack someone and throw up at the same time haha I’d LOVE to get treatment!

  74. I found this website very interesting. My daughter, 16 years old, a junior in high school, suffers from misophonia. We have been pretty aggressive with CBT therapy and visits with an audiologist. I wanted to share what has worked/not worked to help with anyone who working with this type of disorder. The CBT has helped with some general anxiety issues but has not reduced the sensitivity and agitation to certain sounds. The audiologist has let us borrow a pair of $1,800 sound generators. They are a Siemans miCon 3, mini tech remote. Insurance does not cover this device. This looks like a hearing aid but just produces white noise. My daughter reports that they help to reduce the sensitivity by at least 50%. Unfortunately, it doesn’t reduce the annoyance by 100% but she loves them and hides them with her hair. We are putting a 504 Plan in place with the schools so she can have some modifications made at school to allow her to leave the classroom when needed and use the white noise machine. Last experience I wanted to share was that we are struggling with the “just deal with it” factor with her dad and some teachers. Somehow we need the general population to realize that this is a real disorder.

  75. Accounts Receivable | Reply

    The weird thing is that I only get mad at *certain* people when they breathe/eat. Almost anyone who is a blood relative knows better than to eat around me, but occasionally a non-relative will set me off. One time I bought an MP3 from a hypnotherapist as a sleep aid, and when he inhaled on the recording, he made a whistling sound, causing me to throw my phone across the room. I wanted to smash more of my items, but managed to get a hold of myself.

    Either find a cure, or find a way to force people to eat with their mouths closed.

  76. My 12-year old son suffers from Miso. We identified it as such about four months ago, but he had been suffering for two years before that. At first it was my gum chewing (it was Nicorette), then my loud breathing (emphysema, hence the gum), then snoring, then anyone chewing gum, any loud breathing, eating loudly…. His fear – and ours – is what new trigger will develop and when. I know the time is coming where he will be unable to speak to me at all – my breathing is getting more and more labored and it is getting harder to control the sound. We already have most of our conversations via text & email. My wife’s and my fear is for his long-term happiness: how can he enter and maintain a long-term releationship if those closest to him will trigger these reactions? Is he doomed to a life of solitude? My heart breaks thinking about his future as well as how much he suffers now. We’re looking into NFB but this is not only hard to find but even harder to find a treatment center using it for 4S. We’re trying controlled short-duration immersive therapy and distractive sounds to help, but so far there’s been no improvement. I’m so worried about him going to high school – not only because of the prevalence of all of the possible triggers but also because of how he will be treated – those who don’t know/can’t understand (and let’s face it, that will be the entire school), will treat him as a social outcast. As if high school isn’t hard enough when you’re “normal.”

  77. I have not been diagnosed with misophonia. I’ve actually never heard of it until yesterday. Reading the posts I can see myself doing these same things. Just like others have said it has only got worse. So bad that I can barely sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend because of his breathing. I want to know how to make this stop, it is beginning to ruin my relationship with him.

  78. Thank you for the info. A friend told me about this, and I knew that this was the problem that had been separating my mom and I at the dinner table. Would love to find some treatments.

  79. Iv lived with this horrendus think since i was a teenager. I get so angry at people eating i have often threw things at the offending person. Its not a concious action it is a automatic reaction to the bubble of anger in the piy of my stomach. Even seein peoples mouth moving chewing gum is enuf to start my anxiety. I dread parties or celebratiry meals for days because i know what im like. I wish i didnt have this horrible condition but theres nothing i can do about it.

  80. How relieving to see that I am definitely not alone in this affliction! I’m thankful that it is not as serious as those that affect some of your readers but I find it is getting worse as I get older. I do not remember having these inner reactions to certain sounds when I was younger.

    Hearing someone open or reach into a bag of chips or people crinkling popcorn or candy bags in a movie can nearly drive me to distraction. Also, I have explained to my husband that it seriously bothers me when he unintentionally drums his fingers, or makes other repetitive low level noises but I admit….it makes me feel extremely sensitive and silly at times.

    I wonder if meditation might ease the symptoms?

  81. I cannot believe it took me this long to find out what is wrong with me. When people crunch chips around me , of have that annoying cough or gulp their drink I want to grab the closest chair and smash it over their head. I always say if you locked me in a room and played these sounds and told me to do whatever I feel you would put me in a padded room.

    When I am set off by these sounds I feel irate and my blood boils. Anxiety kicks in and and then the anger and now I am in a bad mood for a while.

    In Toronto I cannot find any doctors who treat this or where to start. I guess realizing this is a start but I need to control this!

  82. Hey there, as a long time sufferer of this horrendous problem, i find it more and more difficult to deal with situations that arise. I really get embarrassed if its brought up if im wincing at someone eating or any noises for that matter.. But the main one is chewing. So much rage takes over me i turn red and all of y emotions ball up like im about to expel a fireball. This problem is making it very difficult to be around anyone and everything. It is now spinning into a spiral of depression and i dont know what else i can do. Someone please flippin help me! I swear im going insane

  83. I’m so happy to find this group. Misophonia seems hereditary because my mom sister,& I all have it. Recently mine has gotten worse to the point I have panic attacks sometimes. My triggers are so many things & I would really like to know how therapy went!!!

    1. Thanks for the comment. If you check out my other blog posts, I do have some follow up information about how my treatments are going.

  84. I’m glad to know I have finally found a helpful site. I’ve read every site ever known to man about my condition and I would like to know where I can find a specialist?

    1. Hi Brynne. There aren’t too many people familiar with misophonia yet, but here’s a site that is supposed to be able to help you find a misophonia provider in the United States. I hope it’s helpful. http://www.misophonia-provider.com/PROVIDERS_BY_REGION.html

  85. I am thirteen years old , i often get annoyed when i hear my father chewing loudly,i pinch him but he continues chewing .When my servant washes clothes brushing it loudly i shut the door and block my ears .When a person brooms on a surface i suddenly get very very annoyed and start hearing songs at earphones at full volume. I think i am suffering from misophonia . Please help.This disease can destroy my whole life . i could not get married . everyone will start hating me ………

    1. Thank you for sharing your story. Know you are not alone and there are people like you who are trying to research this disorder and figure out a way to fight it. Good luck to you.

  86. I can imagine it would be pretty isolating. It’s a devastating feeling to discover that, as a person grows to love you more deeply, he is growing to despise you in equal measure for your inability to control normal (often UNcontrollable) features of living as a human. I am punished for things about myself I don’t enjoy but cannot control (allergic sniffling), as well as qualities others find endearing (a sweet humming voice as I cook HIM breakfast in the morning). Anxiety and OCD have been a small part of my life, and have been working my adult life to overcome my milder symptoms. No two people are alike, and I certainly don’t pretend to know this severity. But I don’t believe that there is no way out of psychological disorders. My experience here is with a veteran who suffers with misophonia, possibly a transfer of PTSD. I sure hope more people will report successes to the larger community here. A future spent walking on eggshells is certainly a threshold I cannot cross.

    1. thank you fr ur reply

  87. if anyone knows how to cure misophonia please help because my parents dont know that i have this disease. I am very scared about my parents future and my future.please help

    1. Thanks for the comment. There isn’t a definite cure yet, but people are still researching the disorder. If you explore the rest of my blog, you can read about what some people are trying, from cognitive behavioral therapy, to neurofeedback, to trying to re-condition their reflex response to trigger sounds. Hang in there!

  88. Hey i have commented before, but has anyone taken into account that in most cases, people say it starts between 8-11… Is this a coincidence(ie. when people can remember noticing it earliest)? Or hard facts…

    1. Hi, thanks for the comment. Misophonia hasn’t been studied very closely, unfortunately, so it’s difficult to say anything is a hard fact. Of the reported cases of misophonia, most people experience their first trigger noise at around the age of 11, give or take a couple of years. Sorry I can’t be more precise. It varies.

    2. I seem to have noticed a number of other posters who say their triggers started as early as age 3. I believe mine started at age 4 or 5 and was associated with a traumatic event. I can trace most of my triggers to an associated traumatic or unpleasant event and can even recall praying that the trigger would not “take hold” while the event was happening.

  89. After reading a few of these comments I think one thing you said is wrong but right.. You said that you arent an expert but you are just learning more about Misophonia. But, don’t you agree that us, the sufferers, understand the disorder best? Or at least what it feels like as, there is no known reason for this to happen. Does that make sense?

  90. I’ve had this problem ever since I was around 3-4, I remember throwing tantrums and fits and screaming because of the certain noises. And today it still affects my life, I just want it to stop. I find myself crying and sqeezing my ears because of these noises I hear. If you can find any doctors of solutions for it to be cured, let me know thank you.

  91. I have misophonia. I’m only 14. I’m not sure what to do about it. And it’s not a regular kind of misophonia. I go crazy. If I hear a sound of spitting, chewing with mouth open, ESPECIALLY lip smacking, I just can’t control myself and just hit myself several times trying to get rid of it. Can someone help? This has been going on for years.

    1. I have the same reactions. I’m in my 30s now I’ve lived with this my entire life. I think the hitting part to make it go away is OCD ritual combined with the misophonia. Is there a certain repetition while hitting yourself? I have not heard of anyone else talking about this combination you are the only other person I’ve heard . Maybe if I’m correct ocd. Medication will reduce the Reaction of hitting yourself.

  92. Wow! Is all I can say. My first experience was 11-12 years old. Smacking, chewing, slurping, typing on a keyboard. When we were kids, my sister used to make noises deliberately just to send me into a rage. She thought it was funny. I hated it! At least now I understand why. Thank you!

  93. It’s so nice to not be alone in this. Honestly. I haven’t been diagnosed with misophonia but it’s really nice to know there are other people who understand. I recently spoke briefly to a walk-in doctor about my hearing issues because they’re getting more intense and the anger, anxiety and resentment are getting harder to control. I’m 32 and it’s only getting worse. He told me that my hearing issues were a manifestation of my anger over noises I can’t control. I know this isn’t the case and it was frustrating to get that response. I try to explain it to people by telling them to imagine an annoying noise; Now amplify it and make it loud; Now add the sound of tv snow behind it. It’s like Chinese water torture! The lady who sits behind me at work uses a cash machine throughout the day and I have to literally stop what I’m doing and cover my ears because I want to throw her out the window and the rage is so instantaneous. I feel like I have a hard time separating sounds in my head so when there’s too much going on I can’t focus on anything and I get so red-faced angry.

  94. reading this article and all the comments makes me feel a little better about it, I suffered from this since I was a little kid, chewing sounds and heavy breathing just made me go mad and disgusted at the same time and I did not keep that opinion to myself so it made me really popular as you can imagine. I used to feel very bad as a kid because I was very annoyed by other people including my own parents, but they thought I was just naturally “nervous” and I thought so too. the problem is that you literally can’t escape from the sounds it feels exactly like a sound effect in a movie where every other sound vanishes but the ones that make you mad they just get louder and louder. I was just wondering if anybody notices any patterns when it gets worse or better because sometimes it definitely get so bad that I use all my power and concentration to keep calm and other days I forget even that I have it,so I thought maybe it has something to do with stress or anxiety levels ?

    1. Yeah, I noticed that too. I have been suffering from anxiety since last year, and while that has gradually worsened, so has the sensitivity to sounds (had it since I was a wee kid as well). Nail biting – a habit I had myself – infuriates me in particular at the moment. I threatened to strap mittens onto my mum’s hands to stop the noise…

  95. Thanks for the posts everyone, its nice to know others are out there and its not just me! I work in an open plan office with a lunch hour from around 9 am until about 4 normally. Then a train to work with the compulsive snacking society needs nowadays, as well as seemingly endless mint smells and chewing like Sir Alex Furguson.
    It affects every day, every working meeting etc. I have good earphones and music to block it all out and just have to live and let live when its not possible.
    it would be great to hear of coping strategies, I was considering hypnotherapy

  96. Gum chewing, mouth breathing, people digging and flicking from under their nails with their other nails, and most of all eating. I thought I was just a bad grouchy person that hated the existence of other humans. I am always told to get over it I’m just in a bad mood but it’s really not that simple. Nobody in my family believes that un-renowned psychological issues are real. I’m glad and sad to know I’m not alone.

  97. Ive always been irritated by noises, specifically people eating, breathing, coughing etc. I thought I was just very irritable like others have said! So im pleased ive found this site, thank you! Our neighbour plays music so loud that I get so angry I shake, since he started being so noisy ive noticed that I get anxiety attacks which is a horrible feeling, I dont know if this is related? I go to sleep with my fingers in my ears because even if he is quiet and theres no noise at all, I listen out for music to start playing and think I can hear things that arent actually there! I feel like im going mad its so annoying!

  98. Does anyone else have an audio component paired with a visual? I am easily aggrivated to to point of tears by gum chewing, pen clicking, popcorn, etc. but I also get equally as frustrated with a repetitive movement in my line of sight, like someone one bouncing their foot, twirling their hair, wiggling a toe, etc.
    this is the first time I’ve heard of this, I’m so glad I’m not crazy or subconsciously making it up like everyone thinks I am. Thank you.

    1. Yes, visual triggers are common with people who have misophonia.

    2. Yes, for most of the years throughout my childhood I suffered from several visual triggers caused by my older brother’s repetitive actions. Oddly enough, there was no sound associated with these actions, which included hair twiddling, tongue sucking, and hand sniffing (sometimes all at the same time). It was infuriating and the source of many fights, often physical, between us as children and I’m sure that if he did the same things in front of me today, at age 62, my reaction would be exactly the same as back then. No other members of my family ever evoked such reactions from me visually, but my mom did have some lip noises that drove me crazy in her later years. Most of my noise triggers today (I live alone) are vehicle engine noises and I have not had a new visual trigger in 50 years. I, like many others who have posted here, was amazed and incredibly relieved to find that this affliction has a name but very disappointed that there seems to be no cure or even relief other than to run away from it.

  99. I think their is a issue with certain sounds and how the ear process with emotion I am glad their is a name for it now

  100. Its that wet, gross, smacking sound. I can deal with chewing but my younger brother has been making noise for over 20 years. The second i hear it, no matter good or bad day, i become extremely angry. Its hard not to snap even when i hear come from friends and other people close to me.

  101. Im so happy to have read this… I thought I was nuts before I looked up what was wrong with me. Im still in high school and I dread going to lunch or sitting in a quiet class room because all the little noises drive me nuts… and I can’t just yell or scream for them to stop. And once I even accidentally slapped my sister in the face for chewing her gum in my face and afterward I cried for hours because the action was involuntary. Im happy im not the only one with this problem.

  102. I was wondering if anyone has had success/failures with prescribed medications for this. I initially was diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety disorder about 2 years ago. I thought it was the answer because concerta really did seem to help- it didnt get rid of it but I noticed a chance. However, eventually I tried prozac 10 mg and then went up to 20 mg. It helped initially I was so excited because after work (I am a bartender on the weekends) I was sitting with my roommate who chews gum like a cow and I didnt even notice it. And then I noticed it but not in the way I usually do, instead it was like oh hey shes wearing a pink shirt. I was so happy because I thought that was the answer, maybe I just had extreme anxiety. Honestly everything has been getting worse every week. Last night I was bartending and had to avoid a whole half the side of the bar because this lady was snapping her gum like a I dont know what. I kept having to leave the bar and eventually she got food so it stopped and I was relieved. I am going to talk to my doctor about it when I see him next but end of the day this is not a well understood disorder. I am getting my masters in molecular and cellular biology and work in a neuroscience lab and hope to go to med school next year. I say this because I know there is a complex interaction and pathway that integrates many parts of our brain, and there is a reason OCD, ADHD, PTSD etc is somewhat linked to it or overlaps. My thought process is that maybe the 1 drug isnt delivered yet but there must some success with cocktails of drugs maybe or alternating and I just would love to hear other personal experiments with this. I think my next approach is too up my anxiety meds and bring all the information to my doctor and maybe he will have a new approach. Thanks guys

  103. Wow, I thought I was just crazy! Well, in a sense you could say that I am, lol, but I’m not JUST crazy, there’s a reason to my madness. This has helped so much:)

  104. Abhay Raj Singh | Reply

    Wow great, I thought I was getting unnecessarily annoyed and highly irritable guy, But now I got to know that its a just a curable disorder. I got this 2 years back and it was getting more worse day by day.!
    Thanks for sharing this. Now i got to Know Somthing

  105. I only discovered misophonia in the past six months as I had no idea there was an actual name for what I have been experiencing for years.
    My main trigger is caused by bass. It’s only the kind you hear from passing cars or through walls though. If I can hear the words from a song, I seem to be fine(unless it’s rap, which I don’t care for anyway) and I have always had a passion for music in general.
    I tie all this in with being raised “Southern style” and typically see this noise as people just being rude since I was raised with manners. It’s quite a dilemma!

  106. The earliest I can remember having misophonia is my sixth grade year. I am now a sophomore in high school. It has gotten much worse since 6th grade. Iearlier I was being triggered by about 4 people smacking their gum. I had to run to the bathroom and cool myself down. I can never understand why people chew so loud. It makes me want to punch them so hard.

  107. Had hyperacusis since age 25 years…now a senior. My tolerance varies. If I am quiet for a few days with no exposure to problematic sounds I am better able to tolerate sounds for the next few days. I experience ‘flight’ and have left my house many times on account of penetrating sound from a local club, and barbecues with loud raucus noise from people ‘having fun’.I am slighted better recently in respect of outbursts and rage.Do not know why.Understanding people help. The relationship with my husband re. hyp. was bad. Recently, he has been more understanding about it.His sudden appearance in the ‘wrong’ room in the house makes me yell and out in the world sudden appearances by strangers does the same thing. But I do not fear them in the accepted sense. Music is fine screaming babies not..but I have had a quiet one of my own and taught in school for a while. This site will help me I am sure. Just being in touch with people similarly affected with this awful affliction helps so much.

  108. I have been suffering with this condition for a long time now and I finally have a name and diagnosis for it. I learned that there’s a name for this condition watching Dr Phil. I have been driving my siblings and husband and family crazy with this. Hearing the smacking of food sounds, especially keeping their mouth opened when chewing, dragging of the feet on tile floors, especially like in grocery stores. I have the fight or flight emotional urge to do something about it immediately, like saying something to the person doing it, even if I don’t know them, which could put me in an altercation with someone. I hate that I have this because I drive people crazy because of it. My mom and brother, I believe due to the shape of their lips tend to aggrivate me the worse, they smack when just talking or simply out of habit when not eating or talking. It utterly drives me bonkers. I am glad to know there is known medical condition for this and that I’m not alone in this struggle and that theres help for me and my sruggle

  109. Does this apply to someone who can’t stand the sound of someone playing music at a distance? I seem to dwell on the sound of the bass or just stepping out my door and hearing music seems to get me angry, even when it’s music I actually like. How do I begin to learn to ignore it rather than react to it in an angry manner, which just causes me more problems with high blood pressure, anxiety, etc. Even when the noise isn’t occurring, I dwell on when it will start, how long it will last, how terrible the people are who do this, etc. Help!

    1. I have the same problem. Along w/ the rage I feel from hearing someone smack their food or chomp their gum, I cannot stand to hear noise booming from someone’s music. I had to move from an apartment to a house because I could no longer stand to hear the muffled sound of someone’s TV or stereo through the walls. I now live in a house that until recently was in a peaceful neighborhood. A public pool was built in the park across the street from my neighborhood. They now have a DJ set up during the summer who plays this loud booming music. I sit in my house and can only hear the thumping. It has given me such anxiety that I just sit and cry when it starts. I’ve become so enraged that I’ve fantasized about ramming my car into the stand where the DJ is set up. Of course, I would never do that….but the rage is that real. No one seems to have an answer. No therapists in this area are familiar enough w/ misophonia to even try to begin treating me. Everyone just thinks I’m an intolerant and hateful person. What they don’t know is, I don’t want to be this way. I would love to live my life normally where every day noises don’t drive me insane.

  110. Um, hi.

    I don’t really know what to say, either than thank you. I have had Misophonia for as long as I can remember, well, at least that is the closest thing I can find. I kept quiet about my affliction because I was scared. What will they think? Will they just laugh at me or will they make my living hell even worse? But I think I’ll tell them now and get help.

    I’m done fighting this war alone.

    Thank you.

  111. I have this very strongly, and have found that Cymbalta helps take the edge off. I still get annoyed, but not as quickly and to the point where I want to cry or punch them.

  112. Thank you to everyone for avoiding hurtful comments towards “noisy eaters” that I have read on other websites. I have just been accused by my spouse of being a noisy eater- something no one else in my life has accused me of. I set out to find out what might cause someone who chews with their mouth closed to sound so loud to others. All I found was website after website of people justifying their strong emotional and violent reactions by dehumanizing others, calling perceived noisy eaters “pigs” or worse. I think it helps to assume that many people can’t help their conditions. Some have difficulty avoiding an emotional response to sounds, but others may have difficulty minimizing their sounds when eating for reasons beyond their control. Not everyone, but some. I just think self-reflection is more helpful than a strong and violent reaction.

  113. I thought it was the loud eaters who were rude and crazy. not me. lol

  114. I have this so bad it is causing trouble in my relationship I need help . At moment I have my fingers in my ears so I can’t hear the sniffing …

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