About this blog

Literally, misophonia means the hatred of sounds. But for an unknown percentage of the population, it is a diagnosis for an auditory condition that causes a person to feel strong, negative emotions in response to a specific group of everyday sounds.

Crunching, lip smacking, licking, slurping — the sounds people typically  make while eating or drinking.

Sniffling.

Muffled music or a television in nearby room.

Silverware clinking against bowls or plates.

The crinkling of plastic bags.

Heavy breathing.

Sometimes, the condition also includes a strong, negative reaction to the person seeing a certain motion, such as the tapping of a foot or a person biting their fingernails. These sound and sight triggers create such a reaction within the mind of the person who has misophonia, that the person may feel the need to flee from the sound, suffer quietly with their anxiety about the sound, cope by using earplugs or listening to music in headphones, or even lash out at the source of the sound (think “fight or flight” when it comes to misophonia).

There is no cure for this disorder, and it does not seem to be recognized much by the medical community. But I know all too well that this condition is real. I have misophonia. This blog space will serve two purposes. First, it will provide a first-person account of life with this disorder in the hopes of raising awareness about misophonia. Second, it will provide resources for people who have misophonia and their loved ones.

Many blog posts are to come. In the meantime, please familiarize yourself with this condition by visiting the following websites.

Misophonia Online

The UK’s site about misophonia

A short documentary about misophonia

The facebook group for misophonia

This blog will remain anonymous. If you wish to contact me, simply post a comment with your contact information, and tell me you don’t want the comment published.

32 responses

  1. Hi there, is this blog still active? I’ve been looking at it a lot recently. I wondered if you or anyone else has had any success with in ear sound generators? I am considering purchasing some but at £2,000 they are an expensive option. I wondered if you had made any further progress with your treatment journey. Thanks in advance!

    1. Hi there. I’m still around, but I haven’t posted on this blog in quite some time. Life is just busy. Nothing different to report, really. I’ve also been thinking about buying ear sound generators, but haven’t yet. Let me know if you do, and how they work for you!

  2. Hi,
    I, too, suffer from this condition and tried out some CBT with a therapist a few years ago who actually suffered from the condition herself! I didn’t have much luck with it and the sessions were costly so I stopped.

    More recently, I discovered something called mindfulness. It’s like a modern day meditation technique but defintely different to the sitting crossed legged and chanting shanti, shanti, shanti…not that there is anything wrong with that but it’s quite time consuming. Have you any experience with mindfulness? I searched in the search box on your site but I didn’t find any articles about it.

    I really like the idea and although it doesn’t completely help with all my triggers it does help with the sound related ones. The visual ones are harder to overcome. But in general mindfulness seems like a positive experience and a good way thing to practice.

    Cheers

  3. Hi there anonymous blogger miso guy..
    Thank you for ur easy to read, candid and informative blog on your experience with misiphonia.
    My 14 year old is suffering bad! Can u share your experience with Tom Dozier?
    Thank you :).
    Miso Mom Miss Chris

    1. Hi there, thank you for reading and for your comment. This is the latest post I wrote on my experience with Tom Dozier. That pretty much sums it up. Let me know if you have specific questions that you don’t see answered here: https://lifewithmisophonia.wordpress.com/2014/06/26/experiments-in-trigger-taming-and-new-misophonia-triggers/

  4. I am this message on behalf of my friend. After years and years of living with it, she recently discovered that suffers from Misophonia. People chewing gum, clearing thoughts, chewing food, lip smacking etc gets her extremely agitated. She tried a lot of things like putting head phones on, not looking at the person or thing, focusing on something else etc, with very little success. She was never able to understand why she was getting these extreme reactions to these sounds until she did extensive research online, only to find out that it is a legitimate condition with a lot of other people suffering across the globe.

    The conclusion everywhere seems to be that there is very little awareness about this condition and at present, it doesn’t seem to have a cure. So understandably, she is extremely discouraged to the point that she doesn’t think there would be any benefit in seeing a doctor (few of the doctors she tried to mention this to in the past had ruled it out as a passing issue and some wouldn’t even take her seriously). So i decided to help her out by trying to contact you guys.

    She is definitely ready to get help, there just seem to be none available. Please let me know if you could help her. We are from Winnipeg, Canada. Do you guys happen to know any doctor/psychologist in Winnipeg that is aware of this issue?

    I greatly appreciate your time and effort.

    Thank you,

    1. Hi there. There aren’t many doctors who know about Misophonia and there isn’t a commonly known cure for the condition. I don’t know about Canada, but here is a link to some Misophonia providers in the states: http://www.misophonia-provider.com/PROVIDERS_BY_REGION.html

      Sorry I can’t be of more help. If you read other posts on my blog, you will learn more about my journey and the things I have tried to help manage my Misophonia. Maybe your friend would have better luck with some of the treatments I’ve used. Kudos to you for being so supportive to your friend.

  5. This blog is great! I have had these kind of symptoms since I was a child. Really great to see some discussion around theories of causes and so on. Living in Indonesia, actually, everyone chews loud and slurps. So I’ve had a hard time adjusting to that. I’ve always put my internal responses down to just “being impatient” and as a result I have tried hard to find ways to cope with noise sensitivity over the years. Am also an insomiac at times, affected by sounds. I’d like to hear about other people’s individual coping strategies as well as some professional theories about the matter.

  6. Hi everyone,
    I am in desperate need of advice. It seems like I have misophonia. I have fibromyalgia as well (where sensitivity to noise is common) but mine is so bad it fits this criteria. I live in a basement. There is no insulation. I hear my landlords footsteps (they wake me up from my sleep). Sometimes I cannot sleep at all if they are walking above me or moving chairs above me. It causes extreme reactions. I literally scratch myself from aggravation, feel like screaming. I threw something once and broke my gold necklece… I am otherwise not a violent person, and this is super not me. It is causing me so much grief, and I am terrified a lot by what I will expect.. if i will get sleep that night… I want to move but am worried that there may be another trigger there that will be worse or just as bad. I was in one apartment where it was also quite horrible. But otherwise, the troggers are never as bad as the grinding and scraping of chairs right above my head. I may have answered my own question here if to move, but I would really appreciate input from others who are more experienced than me. Also, there is a house starting construction right near me. I fear that it will be beyond horrible. Iv’e looked at apartments where there is also construction going on right nearby, so I just don’t know what to do! I use a white noise machine and headphones most of the time that I am at home.
    My main question is if you have any advice or experience when it comes to noise within the apartment? And when searching for a new apartment, what to look for.
    Thanks so much!!

  7. My misophonia started when I was around 8. Then, it was just chewing noises at the table. The list (and severity) has grown since.

    I am a 33 year-old male.

    My triggers, in no particular order:
    Neighbors/coworkers’ music/tv, dogs barking, clinking of glassware (but only, say, by coworkers in their work area, not if I am eating with someone), gum snapping, sniffing, all eating (slurping soup is the worst) and drinking noises, Mild reaction from sneezing. There could be more.

    Non-triggers (surprisingly?):
    Coughing from coworkers (coughing from neighbors would trigger it though), Music/TV from friends/family, breathing, all vehicle sounds.

    I sometimes tense when hearing the sounds, but not always. The overwhelmingly largest component to the response is not physical but emotional. Fight or flight. I sometimes want to mimic the sounds to the source person (“let’s see if THAT bothers them!”). Or I’ll even retaliate with different sounds (stepping on my floor extra loudly when the neighbors downstairs play their music loud enough for me to hear). But I eventually and inevitably play loud, bassy music in my earphones/earbuds to drown the noise out. I then check every now and then to hear if the offending sounds are still there, and get the same negative emotional response if I hear them. I would pay dearly to not have this problem.

    Some notes/questions:

    – As far as I am concerned, I feel this is a manifestation of an underlying anxiety that I have. My anxiety is not severe but it certainly does fade in and out during the day. My next step will be to seek a psychiatrist and try anti-anxiety medication. Has anyone taken anti-anxiety drugs to attempt to address this? What was your outcome? Purely out of curiosity, how many are attempting to deal with this (wrongly of course) with alcohol?
    – I am very surprised that the recognition and study of this phenomenon is so recent. This is a clear emotional reaction to a clear stimulus. How could this have gone under the radar for so long in the mental health field?
    – Interesting that there seem to be more females than males that have this.
    – I also find it interesting that it seems to be more likely to afflict people that are more intelligent than not.
    – Is there a place that is more appropriate than the comments of this blog to have people kind of share the details of their misophonia and talk about this? I would be interested in reading about the spectrum of this disorder in the population.

  8. Have you looked in Coherence Therapy at all?

    1. No, I haven’t. Has it been helpful to you?

  9. xbeautyandbeyondx | Reply

    Hi there! I’m from Australia, and a fellow Misophonia sufferer – following your blog, thanks for writing it x

  10. http://journal.frontiersin.org/Journal/10.3389/fnbeh.2014.00123/abstract

    Interesting misophonia research from The Netherlands.

  11. It is so good to know that I am not crazy or alone with this condition. My partner found the information on my condition a year ago and has also taken it very seriously. I also witnessed on Fox News, the morning of April 7, 2014 a banter between host’s Steve Doocy and Brian Kilmeade. Brian said he has Misophonia as well as Kelly Rippa. When Steve and Brian were discussing the condition, Steve decided he would “help” Brian get over his condition and started smacking his lips, as if he had gum in his mouth. I was very offended and wrote a note to Steve Doocy at the network and got a fairly flippant note in return. One of his quotes was, “if somebody is afraid of bridges, drive over bridges, or afraid of cats, expose themselves to cats.” He also said, ” And the best part is, I did it, I know. (not sure “what” he got over) That’s why I said Brian can get over it, if he wants to and as I said, I’m ready to help.” I was incredulous to say the least! Some will never see the seriousness of our condition and Steve Doocy really made me feel crummy. I would sure hate to work with him and try to stay calm and keep a smile on my face trough it all as Brian did. He was very brave!

    1. What Setve Doocy may not realize is Misophonia is believed to be a problem with the brain’s wiring, not a phobia. Therefore, exposure therapy in the way he’s suggesting is not helpful whatsoever.

  12. I’m really glad I found this blog. I’ve been suffering from misophonia (still so unknown that it is underlined in red) for several years now. I’m only 13, but I’d like to share my experience. My family was extremely understanding, and so were my friends, but it just made it worse whenever I look at them and they seem guilty for trying to eat their lunch-it was heartbreaking. Maybe it really was a mild case, except for one thing. My brother. He would use it to punish me whenever I reacted negatively to his eating, called me a liar, and repeatedly did it for the sake of hearing my pillow muffled screams. I couldn’t express the rage I felt at even seeing his lips. I can’t stop seeing them, even after I leave the room. My mother doesn’t know or believe how my brother tries to do it to hurt me, saying it’s unintentional. I really feel like I had no one who would even bother listening to me rant, much less accommodate me. Much worse, it’s only HIS eating that annoys me, making everyone think I’m just lying for attention. The videos, documents I show him are virtually useless. Will there ever be a cure? Probably not. Tell me someone who will care enough to even search it up without the victims’ prompts.

  13. I recently saw a program on Dr. Phil about a woman who had misophonia. My husband watched it with me and we couldn’t believe that it described me exactly! I was so grateful that my husband watched with me so that now he knows I am not the horrible, mean wife that he thought I was. He is now changing a lot of the things that I can’t stand to hear and is trying to help. I am so relieved…. I know I have had this condition since I was a young girl and had to share a bedroom with my sister. I couldn’t stand to hear her breathe so I would go crazy until I would get up and take my pillow and blanket and sleep in our basement. It kind of went away when I moved out on my own but now it’s seems worse than ever.

  14. I’ve recently started my own blog about living with misophonia, actually, I’ve also recently discover that there are more people who feel the same way as I do.
    Now I’m trying to see what information are there on the web about misophonia and just seen your blog.
    I would like to maybe link your blog with mine, since I want to get to know more people with this problem.? and maybe we can help each other somehow .
    My blog is not filled with information about misophonia, just basics, I’m writing about my experiences and life with misophonia. It’s also a blog about photography. You can check it, http://www.soundsofshutter.com

  15. Hi there! I am currently 15, suffering from Misophonia. Ever since I was 8, I have been strongly annoyed of sounds like chewing, breathing, coughing, sneezing, etc. It is hard because I have to eat in my room most of the time because I will get so overwhelmed eating meals with my family. Also I am becoming more isolated at home because of my mom breathing too loud or my sister sniffling from her cold. I am not sure what to do. I told my mom about this condition and now she thinks I am going to be lonely in the future because I don’t know how to cope with it. I tried earplugs, but I seemed to be more annoyed by sounds when I took it out.

    Do the hearing aids cost much? Not sure at this point because therapy doesn’t seem like the thing for me. Would going to a hypnotist help possibly? If you hear any more about this condition please let me know. I don’t want to struggling with this to the point of suicide or losing my family and friends.

    Thanks!

    1. Thanks for sharing your story with me. I will try to regularly update my blog on my progress, so check back if you want to know how my treatments are working. Long story short, the treatment I’m trying now shows some promise, but it’s slow-going. I think the hearing aids are more than $1,000, if I remember correctly. Haven’t tried hypnosis, but it’s possible it could work I suppose. We’re trying all sorts of stuff at this point to see if anything sticks.

      Ear plugs seem to make things worse for me, too. Have you tried listening to white noise in headphones? Good luck and take care.

  16. I am 20 years old. I have been suffering from Mesophonia since adolescence, but I didn’t know it had a name for it. My family and friends call me fussy and sometimes ask me to stop bickering about “silly things”. Well, at least now I know that my suffering is real.
    Thank you.

  17. I am 31 and have suffered from mesophonia most of my life. For me, mesophonia seems to be related to my ADD. I was not diagnosed with ADD until this past year but found that I was a textbook case. Since. It seems that, at least for me, my ability to focus when treating ADD has greatly reduced my irritation and even recognition of ambient noises. Don’t get me wrong, if someone sits right next to me and starts a marathon crunching session of baby carrots, vivid images of punching them in the face still bombard my mind, but I trigger sounds now seem filtered somehow.

  18. I have been suffering from misophonia for approximately 7-8 years now; since I was in my early teens. I am a 23 year old female, and since having entered the workplace after school, I find it has worsened. I get so enraged when I hear my trigger sounds. And the thing I am most sad about is that the people that set me off are the people I love the most… my parents, sibling, boyfriend. I have such a good relationship with all of them, and I am scared that they will one day just get fed up with me. I am always so pissed off, mad and enraged all the time at all of the little ridiculous things that bother me, and they think I’m the most dramatic person in the world, telling me to ‘just relax’ all the time. I want to seek professional help, however, I truly believe that NO ONE can help me because of the way I am. I feel very helpless. I’m curious to know if anyone has ever tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for misophonia? I e-mailed a counselor and they are recommending that, however I don’t think it’ll be worth the money.

    1. Hello. I’ve tried CBT and I have written about it on this blog, if you want to check out those posts. The long story short, is it didn’t cure my misophonia at all, but some people find it helpful for trying to calm down after they experience a trigger sound. So, it’s an OK way to cope with the disorder, but it doesn’t make it go away at all. At least that’s been my experience. Hope that helps!

  19. The picture on your blog of the gum in the teeth set me off as I know what noises that gum can make. Man, this is driving me crazy.

    1. Sorry! I think I’ll take it down. I hope it hasn’t caused problems for anyone else. Thanks for letting me know.

  20. Eating noises have always enraged me but I could always tolerate cats eating their crunchies because I love cats; however, a new big tabby cat is a particularly loud cruncher and I literally
    have to leave the room or I yell at him to stop crunching which is totally irrational!
    but, thank god I’ve found this site and know that I’m not alone…thank you!

  21. Love your blog! I first learned about misophonia when my mom sent me a link to the TODAY show’s segment about it in 2011. She said that as she was watching it, she couldn’t stop thinking that they were describing me. It’s nice to know that it does have a name, and that there are support groups out there for it. I think it helps us all feel a little less crazy! Thanks so much for sharing!

  22. Last night my daughter (23) showed me a uTube clip about Misophonia OMG I am in sock & relieved at the same time. I’m 57 and suffer from this condition all my life ,never new their was a name to it, thought I was just different and have used a lot of coping skills, with the result spend as much time on my own as possible. But my daughter has it to, she gets so angry and into such rages I fear for her, now that we know what it is we can work on it ( not together she can’t stand me) but you know what I mean. I don’t know what else to say I could go on and on. One question is it heaedatory ( I don’t know if that is spelt right ) or is it something I have driven my child to with my own problems? I’m not very good with express myself or at communicating with people, so I need all the help I can get.
    Yours sincerely
    Sad & Emotional

  23. Thank you for writing this blog. I’m 29 and over the past year I have found that so many sounds either enrage or alert me more than ever before. My girlfriend and I just moved to Portland and into an apartment after living in a quiet house in a good neighborhood for the past year. Last night, stressed and exhausted from the move I tried to sleep and heard everything going on in the apartment building, so I decided to skip sleep and google why certain sounds enraged me. I came across misophonia after only a couple of searches and today I read your blogs, commented on one and broke down. A complete emotional meltdown. Now as much as I would like to blame my misophonia on stress as I have not been diagnosed, I knew from reading all of the comments that I have it without a doubt. I am grateful that you have posted and would love to know more about your treatment. My symptoms are not as heavy as some of the comments but when I do hear a trigger noise, I am filled with anxiety, rage and sadness. Thank you again for writing so vividly of your experiences and I hope that your treatments work and that you continue shining a light on this topic for those who suffer. Thank you.

    1. QueenJellyBean | Reply

      Jake, you are so blessed to have found a real diagnosis after one night of Google searching. I’m 43 and have been through many years of various therapies that cost me so many thousands of dollars. Today is the first day one of the Occupational Therapists who treated me in vain without knowing about misophonia emailed me about it. Today is the first day I have a real, accurate diagnosis. I hope you find great resources to help you manage it. I just bought a house because I know how I am in apartments – hearing everything from the neighbors. Many on this site have shared your experience.

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